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could you spare a few minutes to give me your opinion/advice?

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festiveface · 15/04/2006 17:26

At the moment i live with dh and 2 ds ( age 7 and 10) in a small town near manchester( been here all my life). I don't work, dh is a driver and hates the long hours.

the area i live in isn't particularly nice, average income is low and theres lots of kids that hang around the streets causing trouble at night (you get the picture)

my sister in law works at a farm, in stables, in a village about 45 minutes drive from here, lovely countryside, affluent area.

The farm has a big 8 bedroomed house and loads of land, really lovely looking place but a bit way out from stuff if you can't drive which i can't.

thing is, there are 2 jobs going there, handyman and cleaner with a seperate but very close house to live in, which is in with the wages.

dh and myself are considering going for these jobs but, should we get them it would mean changing schools for the boys and a complete change for us all.

it seems a perfect oppurtunity to bring the children up away from this scuzzy little town but also a bit isolating maybe. dh wants desperately to get out of the rat race of a job he's in too.

but, would i miss my friends? i'd have to rely on dh to drive me.
i could rent out this house i'm in now couldn't i?
it would be really hard on the boys to leave their school that they love and they aren't that great with change tbh. also, ds2 has horrendous hayfever.

part of me says that i just have to try things or i'll never find a better standard of living but the other part says this is what i know and this is home.

help!

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cod · 15/04/2006 17:27

learn to drive fisrt

SparklyGothKat · 15/04/2006 17:29

I would do it!! Its a great chance to get away from a bad area and problems.

Pinotmum · 15/04/2006 17:29

Apply for the jobs, if you get them then decide but make sure you learn to drive asap.

NomDePlume · 15/04/2006 17:31

I would do it, if DH was up for it. Without a doubt. Obv the impact on your DSs is something you need to factor in, but what's worse ? Short term disorientation or staying in an area where they are likely to fall in with a bad crowd, and in 4 years time, they could be those teens hanging around getting into trouble ?

NomDePlume · 15/04/2006 17:31

Agree that getting yourself a driving licence is essential though.

Caligula · 15/04/2006 17:32

Do it. You can always learn to drive once you're there.

Your DS's will adapt and if they have a better standard and quality of life, you'll be doing them a favour.

charliecat · 15/04/2006 17:34

Do it, or you will spend forever wondering why if you didnt....everytime a scuzzys football flys over the fence.
You can learn to drive speedily enough to enable you to get out an about:)

Goldfish · 15/04/2006 17:52

I agree with Caligula. Even if you find learning to drive daunting, you can do it in the end. I hated learning to drive but did cos my dh works away a lot and the car was just sitting there. I hated doing it at the time, but set my mind to it, like anything he can do I can do, and though it took me a while I eventually did it and have never looked back. I do think your dss are young enough to adapt. One of my dss is 11 and I would do it. He is not yet in high school so it would be quite a good time to move, now rather than later.

rumtumtigger · 15/04/2006 17:59

Find out if the new school is a good one.

You will find it fairly easy to make friends whilst you have young children I would say - but agree with others you should also learn to drive...be brave, go for the new life!

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festiveface · 15/04/2006 20:51

what would the procedure be for changing schools, can anyone tell me?

also, ds2 has really bad hayfever, nothing helps and he struggles at school with it (they send him home) so, would i be right to think it would be much worse (if thats possible)in the country??

that said, we would never afford a house there so may be only chance to get away.

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jmum6 · 15/04/2006 20:54

I would go for it. Try spending days out in the country to see if the hayfever is worse there.

But what an opportunity!

ShaysMummy · 15/04/2006 20:55

I personally would jump at the chance.
My brother has horrendous hayfever and seems to get it in town/country.
You could always learn to drive?
Your Ds' would be upset to leave their schools but in the long run they will have a much better future. They won't be mixing with the kids you mention.
My DH and I have been seriously considering cutting our losses and moving to spain. If this opportunity came up for us, we'd be gone.
:)

charliecat · 15/04/2006 20:58

I would start a new thread asking about the hayfever just saying is it as bad in town as country or some thing.

WestCountryLass · 15/04/2006 21:21

My advice, go for it! If you don't like it then your life as you know it now will still be there waiting for you.

Also, why not learn to drive yourself and then you wouldn't have to depend on your DH for running about, or get a bike!

7up · 15/04/2006 21:26

go for it, the hayfever will be worse but you could get medication for him for it. i suffered terribly with mine for years and years and then lived at the seaside for 3years and it disappeared and havent had it since. too good an opportunity to miss.good luck

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