What do we do now?

[spursmum]

As I can't find the first thread I'll give a few background details.
My best friend has a neighbour who is a little , shall we say lazy, with her parenting. The kids are up till midnight, fed crap all day every day, left in dirty clothes etc.
As I said on my other thread, my BF has just lost a baby and is feeling a little delicate(understandable).
Said Neighbour came round to ask her to check a pregnancy test for her.WTF
But the problem we have is that her dds 6 and 2 have been left alone all day while she sleeps! A friend went round to shout at her for her insensitivity about the pregnancy and found the kids still in Pjs, the toddler still in a sh*tty nappy and they were starving as they hadn't been fed at 4:30pm!!
She is now pregnant again even though she can't deal with the 2 she has.
Do we inform social services or similar about this? We have tried to talk to her about getting some help, both medical(possible depression) and practical but it just goes in 1 ear and out the other.
What do we do? TIA

I would report them anonymously if they are not getting fed or changed till near t.time
whilst her stinking arse is in her pit

I would def inform social services That is disgusting and those children are being neglected They will thank someone like you when they are older as something may get done now before something tragic happens.Selfish woman!

Can I do it anonamously(sp?) I don't want to alienate her if she does ever ask for help from me.

I can imagine if you go to a phonebox and phone ss and not give in a name
just state your concerns

i'd report her.

Do you have a health visitor you get on with? Maybe say something to her or I should imagie you could report her annoymously SS are more interested in the childrens welfare rather than whos reporting them. Think you should before they get seriously ill as you said maybe their mother is suffering from depression or just can't cope and doesn't know how to ask for it. You would probaby be doing her a favor by getting her some help.

In this case, I think you have to report her. Leaving her toddler in a shitty nappy all day and a 6 year old in charge of her, is just dangerous and they may have an accident.

I hate this indecision that I am experiencing. I always thought that I would be strong enough to do the right thing for the kids.
I will phone the NSPCC for advice, the HV is not really a good idea as we live in seperate towns and I haven't seen mine in 2 years. OTOH I may speak my ds' SNHV as we get on quite well.