Tips for being more focused and disciplined please...

[winnie]

I have become incredibly undisciplined and although I have a lot of things which I need/want to change in my life I am procrastinating. Nothing but the basics in life gets done.

I need a kick (or something)

I know what I want; I know what I need to do but I seem incapable of following this through.

For the first time in my adult life I have 3 free evenings a week and one free day at the weekend and when the children are at school I get a Monday free too. When I had less time I seemed to get much more done.

I am a single parent with two children aged 16 and 5 and I work 4 days a week.

In the past I've been very organised and motivated but since ds was born life has been consumed by various life changing events and I seem to have muddled through.

Life should be easier now but I'm not doing the things I want to be doing.

Tips please :)

(I wonder if discovering Mumsnet when ds was a baby is relevent )

god, don't ask me, I had a COMPLETE DAY free of meetings today to work at home and I have done absolutely nothing but fool around on the internet.

sometimes tho' I think you just have to do nothing. Maybe you have been doing things for other people for so long that you have a need to just hang out for a while and let everything bed down, especially after life changing events?

you say you know what you need to do - what's the very very first step? Do that by the end of next week (assuming this week and weekend are out). Take it from there. Or book some appointments (or whatever is appropriate) then you will have to get organised so as to avoid letting other people down.

hovely, thanks for your reply. Your opening statement made me smile :) I have a feeling that spending hours on MN is actually a very good way of avoiding that which needs to get done and therefore the first tip should be get off Mumsnet

However, the life changing events have meant that for a long time I've had no free time and suddenly I've lots and it is very weird. Although I do think I did need time to just be
Now however I realise I am very bored, eating too much and not getting much done. I've been trying to work out what I do now in my spare time (for instance I hardly watch any tv).

It is now time to take some action. You are right. I like goal setting and deadlines and feeling in control and although I've been kind of setting goals I haven't been getting very far because I haven't been taking enough action.
I am going to write a list of what I can do immediately and do it