having another baby or Dh having the snip.

[SparklyGothKat]

Well the discussion of the evening was whether I really don't want another baby. He wants to know as he will go to the GPs and ask to be referred for the snip. I don't think the GP will allow it as he is only 27. I really don't want another baby. I know that what he is willing to do is hard for him because he does want another baby, but I just can't go through all that again (I have had 3 premamture births) But I also think that if anything happens to me, he might meet someone who wants kids. Such a hard decision.

Having the same convo with dh. Apparently if they are over 25 then its their choice. I am pg with third, one ds aged 3, healthy, lost ds2 at 17 weeks pg and this is my last.

Have a look at Marie Stopes website as it has faqs which helped a bit.

I heard it was 25 too. My sister has 2 children and her dp was going to have the snip but he is only 22 so they wouldnt refer him.

I have been having this discussion with dh too, we only have ds (15m) but I had a traumatic labour and couldnt imagine going through it again, hence my user name.

whereas me and dh want number 4........

that will keep your dh happy

we did discuss me being sterilisated when I was pregnant with dd2 with my consulant. I was 22 at the time, and he was willing to do it after deliverly, but because I give birth early, there was always the chance that dd2 might not have survived and then I would have been unable to have anymore. But dd2 is now 4 1/2 and I am done with babies.

He wants another baby, but knows that I don't, so is willing to have the op. rather than me, because its a big op. for me.

Also regularly have the same convo with my DH. WE are both 28 and have a DS and DD but also had 3mcs. Dh is unsure if he could go through another mc where I want more children so we dont know what to do.

its such a big decision, if he has the op. and then I want another baby, we can't (its highly unlikely that I will want one BTW) I have a 8 yr old, a 5 yr old and a 4 yr old. They are now older and hard work. Also we are moving into a bigger house, and the kids will all have their own rooms, but if we had another baby, one will have to share, and it wouldn't be fair on DS if it was a boy, because he is 8 and needs the room because of his Cerebral palsy.
The kids regularly ask me for a brother or sister, but I just can't do it.