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MN opinion really needed for GDG

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GDG · 04/04/2006 12:11

My brother is coming to 'live' with us for about 4-5 months. Story is complicated so won't go into that but he is unable to go back to his own flat till end of August.

He is staying in our office/guest room where he has a double bed, wardrobe and lovely big office desk for his mac. I'm moving my PC out of there into my bedroom so I can work in there rather than invade his space.

We are trying to work out what he should pay us - the amount he pays will include all food and other grocery stuff (loo rolls blah blah), 'bills' (i.e. the water etc) and I'll be doing all his washing and drying (probably ironing) in with ours. I'll do most of the cooking and he will eat with us, although he is doing at least one meal a week I think.

Tbh, I invited him to stay to help him out and wasn't even thinking about him paying but he wants to and I guess we don't want to be out of pocket food and bills wise as it's over quite a few months.

I just can't get a figure in my head that seems reasonable - what do you think? HEEEEELP!

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LadySherlockofLGJ · 04/04/2006 12:14

No idea.............will think about it.

Nbg · 04/04/2006 12:14

Ermmm

well when I was at home and working full time I gave my parents £100 a month but I did nothing around the house. No meals, washing etc.

£200?

iota · 04/04/2006 12:15

£200 pcm

MadameDeMars · 04/04/2006 12:15

Well I suppose it depends if he's going to watch Jack or not! Grin

(Can't remember... did Jack arrive?)

Carmenere · 04/04/2006 12:16

£50 per week? As a token amount but not embarassingly low iyswim.

LadySherlockofLGJ · 04/04/2006 12:17

Right have thought about it..........

If it was my brother and he was insisting, I would arrive at a figure for food, a small sum for the ironing, maybe £10 and TBH I wouldn't charge for Utility bills.

Why don 't you both arrive at a figure and submit it to Jools for the final decision.?

RTKangaMummy · 04/04/2006 12:17

How old is he?

Is he in a well paid job?

Or on dole?

ToujoursMarine · 04/04/2006 12:18

Could you try looking at utility and food bills for past year, dividing them by three on a monthly basis, and charging him that?
Without asking you to go into sensitive detail I think a lot depends on whether you think deep down he is responsible for his housing situation, and you want to bung in a punitive element...or one that will discourage him from being too comfy for too long.
Sorry he is temp homeless anyway and good for you for adding yet another boy to the mix...

ToujoursMarine · 04/04/2006 12:18

Yes! Ask JudgeJools! I must admit I thought about £200 per month would cover it...

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GDG · 04/04/2006 12:19

Thanks so far!

He's 31, he's a graphic designer in full time job. He's certainly not loaded though.

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NotActuallyAMum · 04/04/2006 12:20

Seeing as he's your brother I'd agree £200 to £250 a month - and he's getting a bargain Grin

milward · 04/04/2006 12:20

Could you see how it goes? - say about £150 - £200 but then if it's less or more you'll both pay out.

LadySherlockofLGJ · 04/04/2006 12:20

Make sure he does loads of babysitting. Grin

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GDG · 04/04/2006 12:21

TM, he is no way responsible for his situation - he's been treated horribly and I have no doubt he'll be desperate to get back to his own pad as soon as he can!! He's not a sponger brother - he's just having a crap time and I'm helping him. He's a very independent person who owns his own home, works etc. Just don't want to go into the whole story cos it's his story iyswim!

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mazzystar · 04/04/2006 12:21

we had a very close friend stay with us for 7 months. she helped out with housework and did occasional food shop and paid us £200 per month.

RTKangaMummy · 04/04/2006 12:23

I guess £50 per week is a fair amount too then Smile

If your bills end up going up alot more then that when he has arrived then negoiate a higher price iyswim

So if your food gets alot more then charge more or if less then less

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GDG · 04/04/2006 12:23

This is good cos you are all coming up with similar amounts and I had £160 in mind so I don't feel too mean!

I just hate money stuff - you know, asking - I just want to help him but can't afford to support him iyswim!

TM - I know, me and 5 boys now!!!! Hehehe!

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RTKangaMummy · 04/04/2006 12:25

Glad you will be able to continue MNetting from another room

Smile
LadySherlockofLGJ · 04/04/2006 12:25

Babysitting woman, pin him down on the babysitting. Grin

zippitippitoes · 04/04/2006 12:26

I think 160.00 sounds like you are being very generous

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GDG · 04/04/2006 12:26

Oh I will! Don't worry about that! I'm looking forward to some nights out with dh! It's been a while! Even a quick trip to the cinema would be a novelty!

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Fimbo · 04/04/2006 12:42

Will he be able to manage to pay you and the mortgage on his house?

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GDG · 04/04/2006 12:45

The mortgage on his house is covered by the person living there atm.

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Fimbo · 04/04/2006 12:46

In that case, I think £160 is very generous of you. I would say £200.

zippitippitoes · 04/04/2006 12:49

I would have said 70.00 a week..but then it also depends on your own circs and where you live.