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Happy Slapping in broad daylight in a play park FFS!! (NBG this is why your instinct light started flashing!)

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FastasleepInABunnySuit · 03/04/2006 16:59

Just got home from the country park down the road, while we were in the cafe bit a group of teenage boys wandered in and sat at the table next to me...

they then proceeded to play back a video of one of them beating a girl around the head in the playpark I'd been playing in with my 2 year old 30 minutes before!!!!!!

They did a runner before the ambulance came, but not after a swift cup of tea!!!!!!!!

Didn't even get asked to give a statement, this won't even make the local news. God knows what the hell is wrong with our country but sometimes I just want to move to a little island in the middle of nowhere!

NBG this is why you 'over-reacted' hun!

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Blandmum · 03/04/2006 17:27

Well, I would expect a child to walk away, and get help from a memeber of staff, not beat the shit out of someone. We are not talking about standing up for yourself here, or being assertive, We are talking about actual bodily harm because some one said 'You mum'

Sorry if we disagree, but I think teaching you chilrdren to start a fist fight is totaly unhelpful.

motherinferior · 03/04/2006 17:28

My partner was attacked in a kids' park recently. May or may not have been a 'happy slapping'; we think it quite probably was.

Blandmum · 03/04/2006 17:28

Vile MI, is he OK?

dinosaure · 03/04/2006 17:29

mi I hadn't realised it was in a kids' park Shock

Did he have the DDs with him?

motherinferior · 03/04/2006 17:29

Yes, but he was very shaken and upset for a long time. Three young blokes sprayed stuff in his eyes, punched him in the face and didn't even rob him.

motherinferior · 03/04/2006 17:30

He was on his way to get DD2, Dino. In fact when the blokes called him over he said 'no, sorry, on the way to get my daughter' Sad

desperateSCOUSEwife · 03/04/2006 17:30

Mb wouldnt want my kids to beat the shit out of anyone
but would like them and 4 of them do stand on their own 2 feet
just dont want them walked all over

and it works the other way too, if i found out one of my children being a bully i would not go moaning if they got a whack

Blandmum · 03/04/2006 17:30

Fucking hell! It makes you so Angry Casual pointless violence!

desperateSCOUSEwife · 03/04/2006 17:31

MI that is awful, hope he is ok
xxx

Blandmum · 03/04/2006 17:32

Well, this mother complained because of the stiuation as I put it. It took three adults to pull her kkid of another. She has been 'provoked' by name calling. The mother thought she had stood up for her self. Where do you draw the line?

If the kid had done this outside school it would have been a court case.

We have had kids have thie noses broken by people 'standing up for themselves'

dinosaure · 03/04/2006 17:32
Sad
Nbg · 03/04/2006 17:33

Oh god MI Shock Sad

MB, what is it with "your mum" comment.
It's become a bit of a joke amoung us all now except we have changed it to "your dad" Grin

expatinscotland · 03/04/2006 17:33

this happened in a very posh park in edinburgh last year. a bloke who played on a cricket team as a hobby was running w/the team for practice one evening. as he had his two school-aged kids along, he was slightly behind the team when he was attacked by a gang of teen boys and beaten in front of his children, whose screams attracted the rest of the team. the youths fled as the rest of the team and some others joined in. fortunately, they were caught by their pursuers.

desperateSCOUSEwife · 03/04/2006 17:36

Nbg just asked dd3 and it means if someone calls you say for example a bitch
you say "you mum" in retaliation and you are turning the tables iykwim.
sorry but>>

mb I dont agree with bullying in any shape or form at all
will agree to disagree

Blandmum · 03/04/2006 17:38

Neither do I, which Is why I think a responsible adults should sort it out, rather than giving children permission to hit each other. What next, if someone hits you you get to kick them, a kick = a baseball bat in the mouth?

So if someone spills your drink you get to give them a slap?

Nbg · 03/04/2006 17:39

Thanks for clearing that up DSW Grin

desperateSCOUSEwife · 03/04/2006 17:40

Nbg you understand that
coz I didnt>

Nbg · 03/04/2006 17:44

Well alot of kids used to or still do slag off one anothers parents (usually mums for some reason) so I can understand the form of "retaliation" part.

Like "your mums a whore" "your dads a wino" that sort of thing.

Madness.

Blandmum · 03/04/2006 17:47

true it is mad and very unpleasent, but I don;t think it is made bettwe if you say, 'If they say that to you again, hit them'

Try running a school where all the kids have been told that! Sheer bloody chaos.

Plus it leads on to things like road rage, you toot your horn at someone so the stop and beat the crap out of you.

When I was in school a girl had her front teeth kicked out because, as the atacker said, 'She was looking at me in a funny way'.

hulababy · 03/04/2006 17:48

There are plenty of people in prison, or convicted of crimes and had their potential futures spoilt because of them "standing up for themselves" and going a bit too far.

desperateSCOUSEwife · 03/04/2006 17:48

mb I can understand what you are saying
but i am talking about retaliation when it is constant bullying of a child.

Nbg · 03/04/2006 17:49

I'm always saying to b&sil how they deserve medals for what they do.

I don't know how you cope with it all.

What do you teach MB?

Nbg · 03/04/2006 17:50

Exactly Hula!

Spot on.

hulababy · 03/04/2006 17:51

IMO teaching a child to use their mouth rather than their fists is generally a better way to deal with thinks. Violence against violence rarely works in the end.

I will encourage DD, when old enough, to speak out and to also ask a responsible grown up to help her deal with such situations.

Nbg · 03/04/2006 17:52

I started a thread about this a couple of weeks ago.

Dh was always taught with fists which I find vile. I hate violence.
I have always been taught to talk, regardless of the situation.