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Original poster

I was not invited to an old work friend's party!

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lars · 03/04/2006 13:25

I am really upset and friend of mine has jsut told me that she was invited to an old work's friend's party but she never invited me.

This I thought was really unkind as I invited her to mine last year. It appears that she since then invited my friend to her house for drinks, etc. We used to all work together and i found this really a nasty thing to do.
My friend was surprised I wasn't there and asked was I coming. She replied no she's not coming.

I am very hurt by this and just don't know why she is doing it. But friend has said she has become like 'fatal attraction' and be constantly ringing her, and said that I am lucky not to be involved. larsxx

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SaintGeorge · 03/04/2006 13:45

I think lars though Twiglet's post - "you have friends .. this person isn't one of them" was referring to the poster she finds upsetting on this thread, not the friend who hasn't invited her.

welshboris · 03/04/2006 13:45

party party party

biglips · 03/04/2006 13:46

hmmm... if u dont know her then why is it bothering you or unless youre not liking it eg jealous?

welshboris · 03/04/2006 13:46

woah, Im not the only you on here being sarcastic

SaintGeorge · 03/04/2006 13:46

x posts with lars own explanation.

Hey ho, at least I understood what was going on (smug emoticon)

beetroot · 03/04/2006 13:46

ok. you don't know welshboris...
but you know the girl, and she prefers your mate toyou? But your mate does notlike her? so ignore and get on with life. IMO

Original poster

lars · 03/04/2006 13:46

welsh boris you are much sadder then I thought. really don't know why you are coming back to my thread. larsxx

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JoolsToo · 03/04/2006 13:46

I don't think so SG!

welshboris · 03/04/2006 13:47

Im sad

Twiglett · 03/04/2006 13:48

just to clarify

I meant the person who didn't invite you to her party is not one of your friends

I thought wb was just being funny tbh

SaintGeorge · 03/04/2006 13:48

Honest Jools, I gettit.

lars is pissed off with ex friend not inviting her to party.
lars is pissed off because no one is sympathetic with her.
No one is sympathetic with her because we have enough of this crap from our kids to deal with.

welshboris · 03/04/2006 13:49

I was, and I did apologise

puff · 03/04/2006 13:49

lars - you've had a lucky escape - this woman is probably besotted with your mate - believe me that is no fun to deal with.

Twiglett · 03/04/2006 13:50

pmsl @ stgeorge

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lars · 03/04/2006 13:52

Puff thanks for some good advice that's all I wanted. There is more to it ,as old workfriends go back along way and it was unsual for her to be like this IYKWIM. thanks larsxx

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JoolsToo · 03/04/2006 13:52

starlover · 03/04/2006 13:57

lars, i know that other people saying this have upset you, and i don't want to do the same...

but forget her and move on!

if she doesn't like you enough to invite you over then it's no great loss to forget about her. i think we all meet people like that in life and although it can be upsetting it's not worth getting too wound up about.

I am presuming it's someone that you haven't seen that much of since you worked with her?
forget her and get on with the friends you do have, and don't let her upset you.

ounds like you're better off not being invited anyway!

notasheep · 03/04/2006 14:10

Life is too short.......

FairyMum · 03/04/2006 14:19

I agree with the others. Get over her. On the other hand, I also understand how you feel. Don't we all get upset about these things really? I think we do and it is only human to feel rejected. I have seen plenty of threads like this on MN before and not sure why so many posted sarcastic comments. Very unfair IMO.

ToujoursMarine · 03/04/2006 14:21

lars, try not to let what has happened in RL with this friend, or on here, upset you too much - sorry you feel so sad about it all.
It really does sound as if it is for the best that this woman has left you out of the loop. She sounds a bit scary these days...

buffy2 · 03/04/2006 15:11

Positive comments was all that was needed!

I am shocked by the lack of understanding from some mumsnetters and sacastics comments, really no need for it.

there are at least some mumsnetters out there, clearly able to give some good advcie for lars.

Blu · 03/04/2006 15:49

Lars - it does seem a bit odd, and there may be some explanation that is not actually about you at all. maybe she did have some ulterior motive in inviting the other woman - using her in some way, wants a job where she works, or something like that. People don't always invite all of the people all of the time...maybve she is planning to invite you to a diffreent get together in a while? if you want to see someone, invite them yourself, and see what she says.

When did you last see her?

Whatever it is, she doesn't sound very nice, so try not to take it personally.

VeniVidiVickiQV · 03/04/2006 16:56

Gosh you lot can be horrors sometimes.

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