Just p****d off and sad!

[WannabeLoner]

Just need to vent my feelings a bit. Have changed my name incase i'm known lately in RL.
Just so peed off at the moment.
My dd2 has been very poorly, to G.P's twice and to A+E once this week. My dd1 has also been off School for 3 days poorly.
My Mum usually has dd2 for 3 hours on a Thursday afternoon (she has my sisters boys all the time and they are her life-mine come a poor second) and she rang and said, 'oh can we leave it as your Dad doesn't have any bacyy(!!!) and i need to go out. I was really gagging for a few hours peace i have to admit and am knackered, pregnant too.
My sister rang that night and said my Mam picked up her oldest from School and dropped him off at 5 ish!
So she cancelled the girsl to get more time with the boys.

If it wasn't for dd's School i swear i'd move. This is just a list in a long line of rejections. Ironic thing is my sister treats her like shit! My sister was thinking of moving a few weeks ago and my Mam cried and cried to me how' if she moved away with the boys she'll feel like she's lost everything'.

What a charming woman your mother sounds (sarcastic emicon)

terrible

sorry have no advise, hopefully someone else will.

thanks waterfalls+
Don't think there is any advice tbh. We are the kind of family that just don't talk. A few weeks ago i was trying to arrange my Mam to have dd for 1 HOUR while i dropped the dog off at the vets for an operation (dog goes besewrk in the Vets and i wouldn't have been able to hold the baby).
All i got was about what my sister 'might' be doing that day with the boys. In the end i snapped and said' I'm sick of everything revolving around the boys'. It's the only time i've expressed a tiny amount of how i feel. Result? My Mam cried for 2-3 days and nothing changed.

I really feel wobbly at the minute though. Pregnancy is obvioulsy making it worse.

try treating her the way your sister does. sounds like she has her trained to jump when needed.

could you sit both her and your dad down and talk it through. Maybe have your sister there too and ask why she favours your sister's children over yours?

I'm afraid not Compo.
We are just not that kind of family. All Hell breaks lkoose as soon as anyone speaks out of line, Mam cries, Dad drinks.....(though to be fair he's trying to drink less nowadays)
Anyway, tbh i don't want their help under sufferance

I can imagine how hard it is for you and I can see why you would not want the help unless it was offered especially as your mum seems to avoid helping you

I don't have any advice although I do kind of have a family like that but it's just a reluctance to help rather than favouring my nieces etc ..... Mine just seem to always have an excuse not to help when I need it but are quite happy to ask for my help with things.

Sorry hijacked your thread

What about your mother in law???

All my In laws live away.
Thanks magnolia Don't worry about hijacking, i know there are a few in the same boat.