Are you emotionally attached to your old baby things....?

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I seem to have an emotional attachment to my old baby things and are now in a funny situation. My ExH is now expecting a baby with his new partner and wants the stroller and other baby things that we had for our children (youngest 4yrs). He reasons that he too has an emotional attachment to them and doesn't want to buy all new things when what we have is perfectly good. It seems his DP doesn't mind using the stroller etc. I used for my baby either. But I find it strange.....I just don't feel 'right' about it - I guess her using them for their new baby. Him and I are on good terms and I have mentioned my feelings but he just thinks it is crazy to buy new things. Also my DP and I are considering having a child together and we could use them but then maybe my EX would find that funny then? I don't know what to do.....just let go of the past and start again when and if we need to? It just makes me feel sad for some reason. Any suggestions from a more balance view point welcomed!

i think i would find that weird too! from both sides though tbh... not sure i'd want to use baby stuff my husband had used with a previous partner.

silly really... but can totally understand it!

I think if you are on good terms it's not so strange them using the stuff. I hate the idea of throwing away my old baby stuff but giving it to someone who gets use out of it makes it easier for me to give up the stuff. I have kept some of the stuff I particularily like and have convinced myself that DD will use the clothes for her dollies.

I have read here that some people keep cots and things for their grandchildren which makes a lot of sense if you have the space and if you think the quality is pretty good.

Well I have a DS with my new partner and he suggested using his DD old stuff from his previous relationship - I felt really funny about this at first and I don't think men have the same emotional attachments as women!!!...but when I saw the cot and realised it was perfectly good and hardly used and would save me a couple of hundred quid I agreed - bought a new matress and it doesn't bother me now!.. Got to spend more on new stuff!!!The buggy and highchair we binned as they weren't to my taste but we kept toys as they are the same as what I would buy anyway just cleaned them up same with stairgate. Could you not get them back again if you and DP have a baby?? And save the money to spend on yourself??