MIL driving me nuts

[SadDIL]

I feel such a bitch for moaning, because generally she's lovely, but the real problem isn't even with her, it's with my DH's BIL. (Sorry a bit complicated). My MIL worships the BIL. I don't like him at all. Since he married my SIL he's really taking advantage and as DH is least favourite child IMHO, he is being pushed sideways by BIL. MIL constantly refers to BIL 'X says this' 'X has done this' even when I was talking to her about talking about my DS almost getting to the going into everything stage, MIL said that when she told X how DH used to do that, X said she shouldn't have allowed it, so MIL then said that she realised she wasn't strict enough as a parent!!! Not sure where this rant is going, just needed to get it off my chest. I have never felt such a need to compete, and didn't before he was on the scene. If MIL tells me 'X says' one more time, I fear I'll have to tell her I don't give a flying f**K what he says or thinks, I'll do things my way, thanks very much. There's no way to avoid him, what's the best way to deal with this, or am I just being ridiculously oversensitive? BTW, have spoken to DH about it and he just shrugs it off.

well, IMO either tell her "I don't give a flying hoot what BIL thinks"
Or
Tell her " wow what a fab idea, I'll remember that one" grin and bear it, walk away and forget it.

If she's usually OK, this isn't worth raising your blood pressure about. I think I'd just say "Does he? How interesting", in the most bored voice I could muster, then immediately change the subject. If you do that every time she mentions him she may get the message.

I know I shouldn't let it get to me, but it does...to the point where my heart sinks if I see his car at their house if I'm taking my ds to visit, which happens often, because he's often there.

I have just read the original post and realise that I sound like a spoilt child! As an adult, I should be able to deal with something as petty as this, but I do worry that it will start to affect my relationship with her, and potentially my DH if I don't get a grip.