am i being unreasonable? why do i feel so crap?

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Last year was my first ever mother's day. So I was really disappointed when dp didn't bother even getting me a card or anything from ds.

This year I made sure to remind him, on saturday we went out and I asked if he needed to take ds shopping for anytihng, what with it being mother's day the next day.
He muttered sometihng non-commital and we carried on shopping.
Sunday morning- nothing. Not even a happy mother's day. I was kind of upset but had to go out to work. I mentioned to him that the car needed filling up with petrol (which he normally does at the weekend) and that while he was out he could get me some flowers and a card.
Got back home- nothing.

I am so gutted. Other people seem to have dps or dh's who actually WANT to do something special for them and want them to have a nice day. My dp just deosn't seem to care. he knows that this was special for me but he just couldn't even be bothered. Couldn't even be bothered to acknowledge that it was mother's day.

Now, a part of me is saying that this is a really stupid thing to be upset over, but I still can't stop thinking about it and I keep crying.

I've barely spoken to dp since. I thought he might try and make up for it yesterday, but no he has just carried on like nothing happened.
It isn't that I am purposely not talking to him, but I am so cross with him, and feel so upset that I just don't have anything to say. It hurts to even acknoledge him when he is acting like nthing has happened even though he can see I am upset.

why can't I just get over this?

oh and just to make matters worse i have no bread or milk in the house but I can't go and get any because he let ds play with my car keys last night and now I can't find them anywhere.

Have you checked your saucepans?

well i've found the keys which is one good thing I suppose.
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IDM is he generally a thoughtful person who just doesn't "get" the cards & flowers business, or is he quite selfish and uncaring about lots of things?

If it is the former then I would take the time to try & get him to understand, whereas, if the latter, I would be wondering what I was doing with him at all, iyswim.

What kind of relationship does he have with his own mother? Is he close but they don;t bother much with cards etc or is he quite distant?

It sounds from your posts as if he is quite emotionally detached.

he can be thoughtful. he sent me a huge bunch of flowers before we started seeing each other because I told him no-one had ever sent me flowers.
a while ago I was bemoaning the loss of my lovely feather duvet that I had on my single bed at home and I came home one day to find a brand new double feather duvet (not very romantic, but still!)

so he CAN do it, I think that now he just takes me for granted a bit.
He has never been big on birthdays and christmas etc etc, and as I say, would quite happily not celebrate any of them.

But at the same time he knows that I do like it.

He lives a long way from his parents so we don't see them very often. He has a good relationship with them though and speaks to his mum on the phone a few times a week. I think as a family they aren't overly bothered with material possessions and card giving and all that thouhg