I'm fed up of my Mum favouring DS1 over DS2.

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Maybe I am over reacting, but my Mum seems to have far more time for DS1 than DS2 & I don't think it's fair.
Both my boys adore her, but she often phones & asks to speak to her boy. When I ask which one, it is always DS1. She sometimes picks him up from school & keeps him overnight, but NEVER has DS2 to stay. I know DS2 is only 3 (DS1 is 6) & requires more looking after, but he is starting to notice now & I don't think it is fair on him.
I was aware that she always favoured my sister when we were children, as she was easier & it used to really upset me, so I would hate for it to happen with my own boys.
DS2 starts nursery on Thursday & I told my Mum that they had asked if he was like DS1, as it took DS1 ages to settle.
My Mum's response was "No, he is not as gorgeous as DS1!"
I was SO cross & said "They are both gorgeous"
She then tried to fumble her way out of it saying that he was a gorgeous little monkey.
Do you think I am being over sensitive?

I do worry about the fact that it is more than likely that both DS's will be suddenly pushed out if my sister has a girl. My Mum already says things to my sister like "When she looks at you..." about a child that my sister isn't even thinking about conceiving just yet!
I am going to have to put a stop to DS1 staying with my parents while DS2 is always left at home.
It wasn't such a problem when DS2 was very young, as he didn't notice - but now he is starting to really notice & it cannot go on.

no i don't think you're being oversensitive, i think she's being remarkably immature and cruel.

maybe she doesn't realise it, but what she is doing is extremely hurtful. to both boys.

that's where YOU come in. cuz you can be the one to tell her to cut it out or you'll have no choice but to limit her contact w/your kids. end of.

also as regards the phone, if she did that again, i'd tell her, 'yes, well, we discussed this and at present we're just not available. '

gifts. if someone did that to my kids - gave more to one child, i'd refuse to accept gifts for either.

My MIL and FIL can be like this. When I was expecting ds1, they kept saying to my SIL who already had 2 children, "Oh but this will be the first dh-surname grandchild!" MIL also thought my ds1 had divine powers for a while but she is bonkers.

I get this with my two from my family.

DD (nearly 3) gets everyones undivided attention and lots of unecessary and usually crappy plasi presents. DS (nearly 1) is lucky if he gets a hello.

THe sad thing is, he is such a happy, sociable little boy and just sits there smiling and looking on as everyone fusses over DD. Makes me really .

Thanks for all your replies on this. I am glad you agree that my Mum's favouritism is not on & I wasn't being over sensitive.
Sorry to hear you have this from your family too, QV.
I am going to brave it & mention something to my Mum, as it cannot go on.
I have also started to have problems with my DS1 giving me a hard time if he cannot go to Nanny's house. I have just had him wailing all the way home from school because she wasn't there to pick him up.