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MOther's Day .. its a pile of poo isn't it

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Twiglett · 24/03/2006 14:04

commercialised nonsense that means nothing

just had the misfortune to flick on to Loose Women (who the f' watches that dross?) with a bunch of b and c-list celebs wishing us a Happy Mother's Day because .. wait for it .. we do a fabulous and tremendously hard job

oh patronising twaddle Angry

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HRHQueenOfQuotes · 24/03/2006 14:08

actually the proper mothering Sunday (not the American Mother's Day which it seems to have been intertwined with) comes from the days of maids and servants.

Mothering Sunday
A posy of flowers

Mothering Sunday is the fourth Sunday of Lent. Although it's often called "Mother's Day" it has no connection with the American festival of that name.

Traditionally, it was a day when children, mainly daughters, who had gone to work as domestic servants were given a day off to visit their mother and family.

Today it is a day when children give presents, flowers, and home made cards to their mothers.

History of Mothering Sunday
Most Sundays in the year churchgoers in England worship at their nearest parish or "daughter church".

Centuries ago it was considered important for people to return to their home or "mother" church once a year. So each year in the middle of Lent, everyone would visit their "mother" church, or the main church or Cathedral of the area.

Inevitably the return to the "mother" church became an occasion for family reunions when children who were working away returned home. (It was quite common in those days for children to leave home for work once they were ten years old.)

And most historians think that it was the return to the "Mother" church which led to the tradition of children, particularly those working as domestic servants, or as apprentices, being given the day off to visit their mother and family.

As they walked along the country lanes, children would pick wild flowers or violets to take to church or give to their mother as a small gift.

Mazzystar · 24/03/2006 14:13

we were all given a little pot of primroses by playgroup this week, i was quite touched.

Kathy1972 · 24/03/2006 14:15

QOQ you make it sound really quite sweet.

I saw a Mothers Day display in a clothes shop yesterday that was all about 'Note to self: remember to do absolutely nothing all day.' Bleugh.

robin3 · 24/03/2006 14:28

I think it's quite cool because it teaches kids (of all ages) that they should show appreciation for the people who care for them. It's been made commercial but doesn't have to be. Making Mum special for a day , even if it's just cups of teas and kisses, is good training for kids, I think. Also kids learn that they can get pleasure from being thoughtful.

Makes me cry when DS presents me with a card he's made because I'm a big softie.

Thirtysix · 24/03/2006 22:19

I actually think It's a lovely thing.
This year though is my first withou tmy Mum and my first AS a Mum-bittersweet and have to say I have found the amount of "noise" around the event quite upsetting for me-have been avoiding the shops for fear of tears Sad

However,still think it is nice and in years to come I know it will be betterSmile

ScummyMummy · 24/03/2006 22:22

I like mother's day. I've bought myself a very nice new bag from the boys...

spidermama · 24/03/2006 22:25

Good idea scummy. I see you're not one to settle for the home made cardboard necklaces and the 'pen holder' made of bottle tops, masking tape and loads of Pritt then? Grin

soapbox · 24/03/2006 22:26

I think it depends how you celebrate it!

Hand made cards and small hand made presents from the children. A nice breakfast in bed and a day devoted to being nice to Mum and then a nice family day.

I think a day devoted to Mum is nice and my DCs love doing lots of nice little things for me on that day.

I agree that the commercial side is hideous, but you don't need to go that route if you don't want to!

I think it is most tiresome when they are babies and it is DH who does all the stuff! Pretty meaningless then I think. However once the children are old enough to do things themselves then it is incredibly sweet in my book!

ScummyMummy · 24/03/2006 22:27

No- I like those too, spidermama. Told partner that I would take care of selecting my present and he could supervise card making. So far so good.:)

brimfull · 24/03/2006 22:28

I like it although dh and dd will be delivering flowers to other mothers all weekend.

Was looking forward to a nice homemade card from ds's preschool today as he said yesterdday he was making me a present,so what did he come home with?A wrapped up bottle of radox Shock.Very strange imo.

motherinferior · 24/03/2006 22:30

I shall be on my own with the Inferiorettes all day, which will have its own charms but not quite constitute a luxurious mini-break, really.

Gingerbear · 24/03/2006 22:30

Overheard convo at work - 24 yr old bloke to him mum
'So what do you want on Sunday then?'
'Flowers and chocolates, OK, I will get (DW) to send them'
'Yeah, love you mum, see you next month'

Hmm, I THINK he cares!

milge · 24/03/2006 22:34

When kids are too young to know what is going on, and dh's try to imitate childish scribble, in a card , then its a pile of poo.
A hand made card from a 5 year old, plus lots of kisses, is great, imho. I always give my mum a pot of primroses, as that is what I first gave her when I was about 6,and she still nearly 40 years later, wants the same.

moondog · 24/03/2006 22:34

QofQ,glad you put everyone straight.
Actually Twig,it's one of the few celebrations that hasn't been appropriated (completely) by Hallmark.They're trying though.

My dd came home with a card.Trouble is,she won't have it that it's for moi and it therefore has pride of place on her dressing table.
I shall liberate it tonight.

alexsmum · 24/03/2006 22:37

ds has made me a card in school, he's shown dh but has told me i'm not allowed to look in his book bagSmile
will be spending the morning with my lovely sons and then going to have lunch with MY mum.i think it's a nice day.but then i like valentines too!

DelGirl · 24/03/2006 22:37

well I got a handmade card from dd today and lovely it is too Smile. She had a bit of help with it from the nursery staff(she's only 11 months) but I'm chuffed. Just have to train her to bring me breakfast in bed on Sunday Grin

ma2cra · 24/03/2006 22:47

Mothering Sunday is really tough for me - it's the one day when I'm reminded that I no longer have a mum or mil, but I have to be happy and smiley for my boys, who take great delight in breakfast in bed and handmade cards, and giving me the little bunch of daffs at church, etc.

I hate the commercialism and find it can be quite upsetting sometimes, and I often find myself close to tears during the Church Service too.

chipmonkey · 24/03/2006 23:35

A good friend of my mum's died today and will be brought to the church on Sunday. Her dd and ds will find that so hard.

eminencegrise · 24/03/2006 23:39

yeah, it's a huge crock.

BUT, it was an excuse to get some new shoes. :o

Filyjonk · 25/03/2006 13:37

nooo I love it.

but I love any excuse for a bit of a celebration. pancake day, whitsun, any given solstice, you name it, we do it in this house. just cos its fun, really.

In ye olden tymes there were loads and loads of days off, celebration days, saints days etc. I think it helps give the year a bit of a rhythm, even if it ends up, in our athestic house, a bit of a hodge podge.

lovecloud · 25/03/2006 13:42

I hope my children when older do not need to be reminded to treat their lovely mummy but if they do like children are known to do especially teenages then Mothers Day is a great day to remind them.

I like the cards my dd brings home from Nursery, dh nevers buys them he will always sit with her make something and of course I get the special "lie in" with breakfast and get off with dishes and cooking!!!

So how can it be a bad thing.

Plus I have a very special mum who has and would again circle the world for us so I love any excuse to spoil her.

Its one of the only days we manage to get her off work to treat her.

winnie · 25/03/2006 13:46

thirty-six, like you it's the first without my Mum and I have found hte whole shopping expedrience in the last few weeks quite difficult. The over the top commercialisation of EVERYTHING drives me mad but Mothers Day is a nice day none the less.

Marie12 · 25/03/2006 14:48

I can't believe how much focus the media have put on it this year - every other advert ends with 'the perfect gift for mothers day', and implies that you don't value your mum very much if you don't buy her loads of presents. Totally takes the meaning away from it when it is rammed down your throat every single day for weeks on end!

purpleturtle · 25/03/2006 14:53

Dd is almost 5 and has got really excited about mother's day for the first time this year. It's very sweet. But \link{http://www.mumsnet.com/Talk?topicid=9&threadid=158555\look} what she's just written in a card to Granny!

I have no less than 3 bunches of flowers, chosen by the children this morning, and a card has come from school and nursery, in addition to the ones dh has actually remembered to organise with them.

Pruneau · 25/03/2006 14:54

I like it.
I also like father's day, though I know that's an invented thing.
It's only as commercial as you want it to be.