Well here's \link{http://www.midsummerseve.com/profile/224415/Ricala.aspx\me!} I like this site as it is more of a community than a dating site. Yes, you can talk one to one with people but we have chat rooms including the women's room which (in theory) men can't enter.
Back in January I met someone who upset me a few weeks later and I posted in the women's room. All the ladies whom he'd been talking to contacted me and we found out he'd been playing us all. He was kicked off site.
One nice thing is that like Mumsnet, you get to meet people in similar circumstances etc.
We have meets too which are good for getting to know people on an informal basis. I went to a met in Brighouse last week, London the week before last and Mansfield a few weeks ago. I also had a 'birthday bash' and my Midsummer pals, most of whom I'd met before, came staying at mine. We had a great night out.
For the newcomer it's free but you have to pay to get 'Essentials' which allows you go see meet details etc. If anyone from Mumsnet becomes a member (paying or not), please let me know through the site - I'm 'Ricala' obviously and I'll stay in touch through the site.
We do have men just looking for sex and some that try to scam. The scammers get kicked off site and once you get used to it, you can tell who the nice guys are - simply by watching postings and seeing who they are 'friends' with.
It sounds like a huge commercial for MSE but it has widened my social circle enourmously and I'm never lonely because I e-mail a lot of people off site or have them on my MSN. And beware, like MN, MSE has a lot of gossip going around
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I've tried Datingdirect and Udate but I'm not 100% on those. I've not retained anybody from DD but I've brought a couple of Udate guys over to MSE - they've not paid up but they can still send and receive messages for free.
Matchmaker.com is MSE's sister site but doesn't have a forum.
p.s. the guy concerned is on my 'friends' list - think about dancing