dilema dilema ???

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Me dp and 3 kids live in 2 bed flat in quite nice area. We don't own the flat it's HA and they can't move us unless we accept dodgy areas. Can't get a mortgage cos dp wages are rubbish. We have the chance of applying for house to rent in scotland (we live in birmingham now). Really don't know what to do, all of my family live here and kids are very close to grandparents but just have the feeling that this could be a new start for us. Plus have never been to scotland so haven't a clue what it's like (house is in aberdeenshire i think ??) Would appreciate some advice or opinions

I'm not sure that that message made sense sorry !!!

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have just read your other message to VSM in sad thread. I know what you say about a new start but if you're not sure about things with your dp, Scotland is such a very long way away from your family. i only live an hour away from my mum and that is too far!!!! Hope I haven't spoken out of turn
On another note if you live in Birmingham have you read the Solihull meet up thread? If you're interested in getting together.

No JB you haven't spoken out of turn, if I'm honest with myself then I know it's probably not a good idea. I think the only reason i'm considering it is because I can't stand living on top of each other any more and it could be years before we get moved.

Hadn't spotted the solihull meet up yet. I'm pretty new to mn and am still finding my way around the site. But i'll go and have a look

I agree that if you and dp are having problems, the worst possible thing you can do is to move away from all those who can help you. Unless other things change your problems will follow you there. When do you have to decide? If you still want to go, start preparing. Find out about the area first. Maybe start a new thread asking Scots MN'ers. Find out if dp is likely to find a job there. Unemployment would only add to your problems.

RR - dp was going to try to get a transferr but everything you have said is right, our relationship is so unstable I have constant motion sickness but for some reason I keep thinking that our luck will eventually change. Our housing situation really doesn't help at all but I know that there would be no point in moving to somewhere larger if i was miserable because i had no friends or family around me. God I hate my life right now

I know it's really hard when things aren't right for what ever reason and the chance of a new start is so tempting.

Sorry you're feeling so down BTW in the Solihull thread I start off as Clairabelle which is probably confusing as well.

Well i think i'll wait and see what the council have to say about moving me after xmas. Another bad point about moving to far is that i'm at college and really enjoying it (apart from all the work). Don't have many friends as it is so I would be mad to leave behind the one's I have got too. Was seeing a psychiatrist for pnd not so long ago who reckons i'd be mad to move away too. I just seem to spend my whole life thinking "this time next year things will be different".

How did the house come up and why is in Scotland have they not got anything nearer? being close to family doubly important with PND, if you get on that is, just adds to the problems if not

It sounds as though you'd be giving up a lot.

Sorry, had to go and give ds3 his tea and then had terrible trouble getting back on. Basically we are on various housing and council lists but because i'm not prepared to leave a half decent area for a crap one then I will be waiting forever. I came across the scotland ones whilst on the hunt for a new home. I do get on with both parents now and i do love it here!!