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People with Depression are too "flakey" and prone to "lying" apparently.....

68 replies

VeniVidiVickiQV · 20/03/2006 12:36

to get a job.

Really makes me Angry.

OP posts:
starlover · 20/03/2006 20:12

i have no idea! ds is only just over a year old right now.

i really don't know what i'll say when the time comes.

alittlebitshy · 20/03/2006 20:16

no, me either (sorry, now i remember you just have the one v young ds.)

i don't have many v v bad scars, but i am sure a little perosn will home in on anything!!

starlover · 20/03/2006 20:18

mine are awful, all up both arms. i mean... how can you explain it to a small child? that you want to hurt yourself?
and i;m so scared that he'll be bullied at school for having the weirdo mum

alittlebitshy · 20/03/2006 20:19

:(

how long did you do it for and when did you stop?

starlover · 20/03/2006 20:22

"proper" cutting for about 7 or 8 years (although not very often the last couple of years)
but self harming tendencies before that... hitting, pinching etc etc

touch wood though i'm over it now.

got to a point though where i just thought, it doesn't matter now. I have so many scars that a few more won't make a difference..... wish i had stopped when i could

alittlebitshy · 20/03/2006 20:25

if it's not rude, how nold are you (or ratyher were you when it started?)

I have never come accropss someone who was not a teen/uni student/young adult when it started!

starlover · 20/03/2006 20:26

i fit your criteria! lol

was at college when it really manifested itself properly... so 17ish

am 25 now, 26 in august

alittlebitshy · 20/03/2006 20:30

lol, look at me, social experiments!!!

PeachyClair · 20/03/2006 20:32

I agree with the young adult thing.... DH had his first severe depression episode at 17, I had my first eating disorder episode at 16. It does seem to come on then.

TearsBeforeBedtime · 21/03/2006 08:50

My OCD started when I was about 8. Triggered by being bullied at school. Just to make things more complex, alittlebitshy Grin

Surfermum · 21/03/2006 09:02

I don't lie about my depression, I just don't mention it to people who I think won't understand. There's a difference. I've never not declared it though on an occupational health questionnaire, but then I work in the NHS and I know there would be no problem.

Mirage · 21/03/2006 10:20

Yes,mine started after being bullied at school at about 13.

Nightynight · 21/03/2006 12:03

If "prone to lying" means that people who've suffered from depression hide it on their CV, then yes, Im guilty of that. Putting "spent 10 years suffering from mental illness" on my CV is hardly going to open any doors except into the loony bin, is it.

Depression is just an illness, that anyone can make a full recovery from.

mb, when I studied in Oxford, the college doctor's line for anything from depression to a broken finger was "Pull yourself together"
If she had diagnosed and treated my depression when I went to her and described my symptoms, I probably wouldnt have failed my finals. I still feel bitter about it, nearly 20 years later.

PeachyClair · 21/03/2006 12:33

That's the thing isn't it Nighty Night. It's all very well saying you can't be sacked because of mental illness but they don't have to offer you the jog in the first palce if they know. Sometimes it's probably better just to lie, even if you get 6 months salary before you get scaked it's better than the benefits queue!

spacedonkey · 21/03/2006 12:46

I feel I am "unemployable" at the moment, having been off work for the last 18 months owing to depression. This has also caused me to go bankrupt since I was completely reliant on my job to service my debts. I'm studying for a degree with the OU now, and hoping to start working part time on a freelance basis soon. I don't feel I could get a job if I was honest about my mental health history - I would certainly attempt to gloss over it on application forms, although I'd feel uncomfortable about lying outright (if I was asked directly for instance).

I'm not flakey (as a rule) either: as someone said earlier on this thread, often depressives set ridiculously high standards for themselves in all areas of life, and thus make committed and conscientious employees.

There is still a lot of prejudice out there, it's true.

starlover · 21/03/2006 21:04

interestingly mine was triggered from bullying at school too...

expatinscotland · 21/03/2006 21:13

the thought of having to go back to my job fills me with dread.

but i made a commitment to those girls. i have to do it. i have a duty to them and to my family.

i made my bed. i will lie in it.

expatinscotland · 21/03/2006 21:13

fortunately, the higher Lustral dose is helping w/the panic attacks A LOT.

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