Bullying or heavy-handedness? What to do?

[lucy5]

My dd 5 is coming home with bumps and bruises and saying that a certain girl has done it to her. She says that she tells the girl not to do it. I know on Friday a classroom assistant was involved as dd cried. She woke up in the night with a sore throat, I know this is genuine but she didnt have a temperature or anything. So this morning she sort of tried to get out of going to school, she said that she was worried about this girl grabbing her throat!!!!!!! She seems to think this behaviour is normal and when I said I would write a note to the teacher saying she had a sore thoat and would she keep an eye on her, she was suddenly fine about going to school. She doesnt seem overly worried about this girl but this mornings events have made me think perhaps she is a bit concerned. I have a parents evening on Friday,

1. Should I wait until then to say anything about it?
2. How do I approach it? I am a little unclear if bullying is going on or if this other child is heavy handed and needs to be monitored.

i would go in and speak to a teacher. this IS bullying

Would you wait until Friday?

I have a dd in reception and I, in your place, would definitely mention it, would ask the teacher today to give you an appt.

You sound reasonable, you're giving this girl the benefit of the doubt, but you should put your own DD's welfare and happiness first. I think interevening now, in case it gets upsetting for your dd is the best approach.

goodluck.

no i wouldn't wait until Friday.

I'd see if i can hae a chat to her teacher and just mention everything dd has said to you... that way the teacher can keep an eye on them and make sure it doesn't happen again

Thank you the comment about this girl grabbing dd's throat has made me really worried.

Talk to the teacher. Whether it's bullying or heavy-handedness, it needs to be watched. I would talk to your daughter about it first and tell her that you intend to talk to the teacher - that way you are not taking the problem entirely out of her hands, and some additional information may come out of the chat.

Thanks thats sensible advice. I have been trying to surrupticiosly [sp] weedle info out of dd. I think you are right I need to properly talk to her about it.

Omg! After writing this down , it's blooming awful!

how bad do I feel! School has just phoned to say she is not well and needs to come home.