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desperate dh seeks mother's day advice

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justdh · 19/03/2006 19:59

Hello - first post so be gentle.
DW lives on this site, and has made some good friends, and gained valuable support and advice. Who'd have guessed she's the geek in this relationship after all (no offence).
Anyway, having familiarised myself with some of your acronyms (DH usually means d*head when directed at me, but anyway), I am turning to you for some important advice - my life could well depend on the outcome.
DW does a fantastic job, and we have a well adjusted 3 year-old DD as a result. I should add that she in no way does it by herself, in case you were wondering. We also have another on the way (T minus 4 weeks and counting) which she has struggled with (physically) from day one. So, I could do with some really nifty gift ideas for Mother's day to show my appreciation.
I just hope she doesn't spot me as she's bound to be lurking round here somewhere.
If you have any personal experience of great mother's day gifts, please share. Any help much appreciated - thanks in advance.
justDH

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justdh · 19/03/2006 22:03

OK - now I can feel a plan coming on, involving craft (with DD), pampering , time-out, a trip to town (with my noseclip in case I need to go into Lush), and time-out.
Last time I did anything like this it went a bit wrong. Some years ago we went on holiday to Canada over her birthday and i booked a facial for her on the internet before we left. I knew the spa was on the same street as our hotel, so I was quite chuffed with myself. When we landed in Toronto I found out that the street in question (Younge St) is the longest in the world at 1178 miles. We had to take an hour long trip on two busses and a train to get there. Damn those Canadians and their record-breaking streets.

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justdh · 19/03/2006 22:05

D'oh!
If she reads this thread she'll know it's me now. By the way, I'm not so clueless as not to have thought of any of those ideas myself, but you have focussed my mind and accelerated the process. I'm very grateful to you ll.

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sharklet · 19/03/2006 22:09

I had a fantastic reflexology and aromatherapy massage about 3 weeks before DD was due whic was amazing and made me feel wonderful - when I had been feeling a lot like a beached whale. That might be nice. Your ideas sound fab. I just hope she knows how lucky she is!!

thewomanwhothoughtshewasahat · 19/03/2006 22:11

I agree with you about lush. it stinks. After 3 years of pressies from tehre I told dh! But first time round it was lovely iyswim

threelittlebabies · 19/03/2006 22:39

I will be directing my dh to this thread! Am sure she will love anything you have put thought into Smile

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justdh · 19/03/2006 22:52

BTW, I just had a look on some of DW's threads to see if I recognised any names. I saw WickedWaterWitch, FrannyandZooey and Cori. WickedWaterWitch I'll post DW's name next week as requested.
Until then, Cori, I believe you and DW are expecting at the same time...

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princessdaisy · 20/03/2006 09:20

I've had my children now, but when I was expecting my second and it was mothers day. DH and DS made me a gorgeous card with all the things they loved about me on it, and gave me a home made voucher, that when the baby (dd) was born, they would give me a special ring to remember my family by. I chose a trinity eternity ring with 3 tiny diamonds (not that expensive btw) one for each child and ds. That way it was kind of a present for that mothers day and for completing the family when I did give birth 2 weeks later. I had fun choosing it too, we all went together and got a lovely white gold one.

I was so pleased that I had something really special to show for 2 horrible pregnancies and births and for the three people I loved so much. It still makes me cry thinking of it. Could you stretch to something like that for a really special occasion?

ernest · 20/03/2006 09:57

are therenationwide beauty salon vouchers available sso she could use them another time/place or do they have to be salon specific does anyone know?

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justdh · 20/03/2006 12:32

That's a nice idea princessdaisy, and your experiences sound similar to dw - even down to the timing. She is due a few weeks after mothers day too. This kind of ties in with a few conversations we've had in the past - not least the promise I made at the time of dd's birth to buy her a BIG present (still to materialise). Also, she no longer wears her gold engagement ring as it clashes with her platinum wedding ring. Hmmm, an eternity ring, she'd like that.

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Nbg · 20/03/2006 12:43

When I had my dd, dh came to the hospital on the day we were leaving with an eternity ring.
Totally loved it.

Means so much to me and everytime I look at it, it reminds me of that special day.

I think it's a great idea.

meowmix · 20/03/2006 12:55

clarins do a fantastic mothersto be package - about 1hr 30 and is a head, back, arms, shoulders and leg massage plus facial. its so good I've been tempted to book one even when not pg!

If she doesn't feel up to dinner out could you pack her off for a bath/lie down and make a romantic venue in your kitchen/dining room? if you aren't a cook then you could get something delivered?

mcmum · 20/03/2006 13:00

aaah just saw your thread ! how sweet my dh wouldnt dream of doing that im impressed ! i would go for a nice pamper day, when is baby no 2 due, you could make sure voucher last for after birth then you could babysit!! lol that would be even better in meanwhile nice flowers and voucher make her feel extra special good luck ! Smile

mcmum · 20/03/2006 13:03

sorry just spotted eternity ring idea - def go with that - my dh bought mine for christmas and hid it under my cereal bowl and i loved it even more coz he actually went out and picked it! go get it................

zarabootoo · 20/03/2006 13:54

Just wanted to say that an eternity ring is a great idea. DH bought me one for Christmas - went out with the dds and they helped choose it. Mine was also for completing the family and has five diamonds - one for each of us!

louisalouisa · 20/03/2006 15:10

just be careful aout buying any smellies and bath stuff and letting your child run wild in boots or lush, some things can make your skin a bit funny in pregnancy or give you thrush if you use them in the bath. I got loads of smellies when I was pregnant with the twins and ended up with loads of problems before the midwife said not to use anything smelly in the bath.

Ring osunds like a great idea!! now can I work out how to leave this page open so that my partner reads it and gets a hint!!

motherinferior · 20/03/2006 15:15

A pregnancy massage would be a very nice idea.

The Jo Malone website is a lifesaver to my DP.

Blu · 20/03/2006 15:23

I would have been over the moon (Brian) if DP had got me a piece of jewellry to celebrate the birth of our child. He is unrelentingly unromantic...a ring would have menat a lot. Can't go wrong. Look for something unusual and individual - what sort of taste does she have?

Blu · 20/03/2006 15:31

\link{http://www.madeincley.co.uk/Index.htm\look at the jewellry on this independent jewellers site..they will make to order, too}

Enid · 20/03/2006 16:03

jewellery nice

I am 5 weeks off having our third child and my god would I appreciate a pregnancy massage....

Mhamai · 20/03/2006 16:11

Sorry slight hi jack belated congats Enid on pregnancy Smile

Mhamai · 20/03/2006 16:11

congrats even Blush

Uwila · 20/03/2006 16:44

Hey, JustDh, was that a joke? Or do really have a "well adjusted 3 year-old"? Envy

cheltenhamgal · 20/03/2006 17:18

this thread is lovely and has made me quite Envyas I am a single mum so will end up with no gifts on Mothers Day, well done u and definately the pamper thing, and time on her own :)

saltire · 20/03/2006 17:30

Last year, my Dh took the kids out for 4 hours in the morning, so i had peace and a lie in. They gave me all the usual chocs, wine and flowers, let me watch what i wanted on TV all day, and Dh cooked the most amazing roast dinner. In fact he did everything, all day.
It may not sound much, but we couldn't afford fancy days at spas or lunch out, but it was nice just to feel pampered at home.

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justdh · 20/03/2006 17:44

Uwila, not a joke but I should add that by 'well adjusted' I mean that she is everything I would hope for in a 3-year-old which includes pushing the boundaries and generally being a little madam if she feels like it. She's not a robot, put it that way.
Anyway, I've got a half-day booked and I'm off into town on Wednesday. My mission: to find a ring by myself. Should I fail, plan B is to let DW choose her own. Thanks for the link Blu, and the tips. I'll let you know how I get on.

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