Just spoke to someone about a job & discovered that I used to date his son.

[Mirage]

Weird,weird,weird!
I'm a self employed gardener & the cleaner who works at one of my jobs rang the other night to ask if I'd consider gardening for another of her customers.So I rang the chap up & had a chat to him & it turns out that I dated their son about 15/16 years ago.I only saw him briefly,as it turned out that he hadn't exactly finished with his previous girlfiend I wasn't going to play 2nd fiddle to anyone.I do remember his parents liked me a lot though & said that they wished he'd dump his girlfirend properly & stick with me!

Anyway,I told the chap that I knew him & that I'd been out with his son a long time ago & he said that he'd tell him that I was coming around to see the garden on Monday & would they still recognise me?

Oh god,I hope the son isn't there.I'd completely forgotten about him & I look nothing like I used to.It was the late 80's early 90's when I last saw him & I had long curly permed hair & a penchant for short skirts.These days I have more than a few grey hairs,spots & wrinkles & generally dress in combats & wellies.He'll probably look at me & think that I'm a poor deluded soul,who imagines things that didn't really happen.

Why do these things happen to me?

weird isn't it? Are you single now? Would you want to rekindle old flames?

Weird happened to me last week too. I have been taking my ds to speech therapy for 5 weeks and been happily chatting away to one of the other mums whose ds gets on really well with mine. This week that little boy turned up with his dad......who I dated when we were both 16. God, I went so red trying to chat away to him in my usual calm manner! Very

My mum had her website done by a guy whom I snoggedonce and walked off when he said "Gimme your tooooooongue"
Luckily he didn't tell her how he knew me (recognised me from my graduation photo btw).

i read this bit play 2nd fiddle to anyone as i wouldn't play or fiddle with anyone

No.I'm very happily married to dh.I wouldn't want to rekindle anything,he was a bit of an idiot,to be polite,but fun & goodlooking.

I suppose I just have a tiny bit of pride left & wouldn't want to imagine him thinking 'God,I'm glad we split up,look at the state of her'.

I guess that I used to be quite glamourous,people who didn't know me years ago are quite surprised when they see photos of me in my prime! I don't think I've aged well.

Your encounter is weird too.Did he recognise you? What did you say?

Oh I know, I avoid quite a few blokes for whom I have ahem in the past unbuttoned my woolly cardie, because I just can't face their scrutiny of my middle aged mumsiness...

LOL Mumofmonsters.I'm to tired to fiddle with anyone these days.

Pruni-classsssy!!!!!!!

Mirage, I know what you mean; I often bump into people I knew from school and then wish I hadn't popped out that day in my baby puke-stained t-shirt! It makes it worse when they look so glamorous/well dressed/handsome etc...

This guy the other day did recognise me - neither of us have changed at all in nearly 20 years it seems! We chatted about our mutual friends and we exchanged phone numbers with a view to our ds's getting together to play sometime. I told dh about it when I got home and he thinks that would be a bit weird. I think it would be a bit funny too but it would be with his wife really as he works full time, it just happened to be his day off when I saw him. Not sure whether to try to arrange a play date or not?

Hmm,I'm glad I'm not the only one who feels 'mumsy'.
QE2,I suppose you would have to ask yourself if you'd still arrange the playdate if you didn't know this guy from the past & were just aquainted with his wife? It is a tough one.

I have a feeling that my ex still lives at home.Ha,why am I worried?To go by his past behaviour,I can almost guarantee that he isn't happily married.Perhaps he is fat,balding & still living with mummy & daddy? I hope so!That would make me feel better.

QE2 Let me know what you decide to do.