How did you feel when you 'left home'

[Smurfgirl]

I have bought a house with my boyfriend. Oh Lord. I sort of fell into it, and now I am totally freaking out.

I have a very very (read 2 people) social circle so I am scared that once I stop living in a shared house I will loose all my friends.

And I never ever go home to my parents, which makes me feel sad and I never quite meant to leave home and now I think I have!

I like being older and having my independece, but actually get quite upset when I realise what a massive step I am taking. And I am really really scared that I will become very isolated.

Help!

21

(am v.sad yes)

will be 22 when I move, dp will be naerly 23.

I felt exactly the same when I moved in with my then boyfriend (now my husband).
I was very sad, even though I was getting my own place and living with the man I loved. I was leaving all my friends behind in the village where I'd grown up and moving about 10 miles away.
I phoned my mum and dad nearly every night for the first month.
But you soon adjust, I promise. I am still friends with the people I was friends with (it has got harder since I became a mum, I seem to now associate with work friends and other mums). And I go see my parents at least once a week.
Me and my older sister have left home, my younger sister is looking for a house now. But nearly every Saturday or Sunday we all migrate back to my parents house, eat them out of house and home and chat. It's good fun.

I have lived away from home at uni for 3.5 years btw, its just leaving the comfort zone of a student house and not going home in holidays etc. Actually get quite upset thinking of it.

18, when I left small town in N of England for the glitz and glamour of the Eastend of London. Went to nursing school, lived in the nurses home, like halls of residence so a good stepping stone. Moved into a house with a friend at 20, then with dh (he was just bf at the time) at 22.

I didn't feel like this - but then I wasn't that happy at home.
I liked the freedom. My first flat was a big step and I was really excited.

so differant from me, left home when i was 17 and never looked back. never got on with my mom, she's quite psychotic and made life hell and as my dad was always away and i had no sibs it was me against her all the time. left as soon as i finished school.

have been living with dp since i was 18 (22 now).

if you survive the first few months of getting used to each other it'll make you much stronger as a couple and if not you're young enough that you won't feel trapped because of age etc.

hope it works out smurfgirl, good luck

i left at 18. moved into halls of residence at nursing uni too. lived with friends till i was 21, then moved into my own flat, which DP then moved into, we'd been together for about a year (although he kind of never left my student house either!) Then a year later we moved up to London.

I left 2 weeks after my 16th, I married DH :) I felt free and wonderful, I moved 250 miles away and never really looked back!

I left home at 16 (I'm now 22) and I'm really close to my Mum and Dad and was really homesick!!! Hardly eat for a fortnight - just cried, and I told myself I'd give it a month then if I was still sad I'd move back home but I was fine :)

My advice is meet up with your friends regularly, have them round your new house now and then and maybe go out as a 4 with u, dp, friend and her dp?

I ring my m&d everyday, always have always will :o
and do try and keep in touch with your friends as much as you can. I did go through a time when I didn't see mates much (and felt crap) but just having a good talk on the phone is good and makes me feel so much better.

good luck, hope you're feeling better soon and hope everything goes well for you:)