help please

[aloner]

Hi how don't know if this is the right section but I really need advice. I am 4 month pregnant and I'm married with a eleven year old son. 4 years ago my 6 day old baby died to mrsa since then I have had a drink problem. My oh as suffered with severe depression. Anyway since I got pregnant I stopped drinking I have been really good. But stupidly I had a relapse last week. I know very selfish of me. Me and my oh had a argument and he threw me out. Some one phoned the police and they made me go hospital. They asked me what my oh phone number was it just could not think. I knew my son was with my mum but I wanted get bck before she dropped him off so I toldthem this and I said it did not know if door wouldbe open So I needed go. They would not let me and treat me like rubbiSh. They tried getting my mums details but did not want her involved. So they phoned social services on me. They came out last week and the nurse as twisted my every word8

I am so scared they are going take your-my kids over one stupid mistake. I can't eat sleep or think. They are coming bck next week. My son is spoiled I would never hurt him. I can't believe this is happening will i lose my children over this. I ant bare to lose another

How has she twisted your words?

Where are you now? At your mother's?

Firstly, have you been drinking again today? I only ask because your posts seem a bit jumbled.

Second, have you had any support in not drinking? Do you have an AA sponsor you could call?

No-one here can say what might happen but it's unlikely they would remove your child over a single incident. You should be offered help not punishment - any chance of getting into rehab? Rehab is available on the NHS but not easy to get although in your circumstance (pregnant) you may qualify unless of course you have plenty of ready cash to go privately.

Do you really remember what you might have said when at the hospital? It sounds like you were very drunk in order for someone to have demanded that you go there.

No me and oh sorted things it was just a silly argument. She told them i dId not know where my kid was. She told them in tried run off and then had hold me down that my husband dragged me down the stair all total lies we are good parents but because of one argument and a horrible nurse I getting all this

I wonder if they have a duty to inform SS if they have to deal with a pregnant woman who has been drinking? It sounds like the kind of thing that might happen - like if a child discloses something dodgy at school they have to inform SS so try not to blame the nurse. Sounds a bit odd that she made things up though which is why I asked if you remember exactly what you said at the hospital.

Why would a nurse make things up? I mean, are they not busy people? What did she gain from that

She would look stupid if she lied and later found out you lived in a bungalow wouldn't she?

No I on a new touch phone and can't get use to it lol sorry. Trust me in will never touch a drink again. I was not drunk when took to hospital I was took there as I had no shoes on and was locked out. I've not drank since and won't trust me.

I haVe no idea why she did this. I even asked for a drink of Water which is did not get till 4 hours later.

Why would someone tell you to go to a hospital if you were locked out of your house with no shoes on? That doesn't make sense at all, sorry.

Being locked out is a form of domestic abuse. You have a child living at that address, soon to be two. It's correct that they pass on a SS referral.

How did you get to hospital?

No some one phoned the police as saw me outside my house pregnant crying the police phoned a ambulance as I am pregnant must be precaution. They saId to go hospital to get baby checked . You wiTh me now

ok so because of this will have lose my children is what I'm asking if anyone has been through this sort of thing

You won't lose your children through domestic abuse. Not if you are taking steps to amend it and keep dc safe

However, the drinking. That is a possibility. I don't know. It sounds a worry.

Don't worry, ss being involved doesnt automatically mean they want to take your children away from you.

You sound like you could do with some support and ss can help with this.

You have been through so much and drinking is a hard habit to break, you must take any help you are offered.

Ok thanks this has opened my eyes I will not be drinking again.

Thanks I have accepted help from them i said what ever it takes to keep my child.

It takes a LOT for SS to remove your children. Yes it can happen because of an alcohol problem but not because of a single event (pregnant or not). Even if SS did remove your children they would seek to place them with a friend or relative before with official foster parents as, quite apart from other benefits of them staying within their family, it's cheaper for them to do it that way.

I think you need to try and stop stressing, you had a relapse, a nurse has said something you refute, they have been once and not removed your child. They will either offer you some support next week or they might just sign you off their case list. The stress is not good for your baby.

Why did your partner throw you out of the house? Is he supportive and helping you through your relapse?