MN jury please.

[carla]

Am I being unreasonable here?

H wanted to go off to local rugby club last night. He'd put it in the calendar in advance, so I knew about it. DDs complained, I said 'Don't spoil Daddy's night out, he hardly ever goes out'. Well, it irked me to say it, 'cos I didn't really mean it, but I did say it.

Then, when he gets back and I continue the fabrication of wanting to know if he's had a nice time, the first (and only) thing he tells me about is the two women he and his friend met at the bar after the game. Whittering on about how wonderful they were.

Is it me ?

Or should I just be grateful that at least he told me?

I dunno.

Am tapping my toes. Anyone?

Maybe he's intentionally winding you up because he knows you resent him going in the first place?

Why do you mind so much if he goes out once in a while? Or does he go out alot?

EB, thanks for replying. No, he doesn't go out a lot. But he does go out, which is more than I do. I just think if I had done the same, and said X and I met these two awesome blokes at the bar, it would have been a different story.

Maybe you should ask him why he responded that way? It sounds childish, and as if he intended to get a reaction from you. Do you communicate well about other things?

Gotta go get dd up now. Good luck.

Me too, EB. Thanks. Catch up later maybe.

Where are the rest of you?

My best advice is go out yourself, he's probably winding you up as he knows you are peeved. Treat yourself, go out and enjoy yourself.

I would be really cross about the women part of the story and would make sure he knew I wasn't happy.

I also think that YOU need to make time to go out on your own and to leave DH in, even if just once ever so often.

Thanks for your replies. Just have to put it behind me, and perhaps down to his insensitivity rather than overt nastiness. Good to talk about it with you, thanks.