Job is making me ill and I can't do anything about it

[StressyHead]

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personally, i would drive red hot needles through my eyeballs before saying that childcare problems were the reason i could not do something i didn't agree to in the first place!

anyway, good luck, stressyhead, you need to say something you feel comfortable with.

let us know how you get on.

Thanks BK

bossykate, you're point about childcare is a good one.

SSH - I think it's important that you're email reflects the relationship you have with your boss and obviously only you know this, think about how you think your boss will use the information you give.

You need to give facts rather than emotion, make arguments and provide evidence to support them... try and approach as if you were writing it for a friend.

try writing it then re-reading in a little while.

Just some suggestions

dh just popped back home and he thinks you're all fab and finally understands why mumsnet is so important to me

Agree with everyone's comments here, and think that Salt & BK's suggestions are excellent.
You should not feel you have to apologise for trying to juggle childcare commitments, especially in the light of your previous conversations. The more you can dwell on the positives, like they suggest, the more it sounds like you're eally coping and thinking sensibly aboput how best to manage your time (which presumably is also a key aspect of your job)
Hope you're feeling better soon...
Big Hugs,
Mo2

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sorry, stressyhead, also meant to say, it sounds like you're really starting to tackle these things, one by one. good for you, and i really hope things get better in the new year.

Stressyhead, bk's advice is excellent, as it invariably is in these matters. I agree with her, state the problem (agree with the red hot pins and childcare comment too, unfair but that's how it goes), detail how it could be overcome, describe the benefits of your solution and don't apologise. I also think a few days off will help you to step back from this and consider creative solutions. Good luck, let us know how your boss responds won't you?

Excellent support for StarryStressyHead!!! You are all wonderful. BK, I understand exactly what you are saying about placing red hot needles in my eyeballs before I would mention any problems with childcare! It is so tough, I was raised to be sweet and accommodating yet independent. I was told by my Mom continually that I needed to be able to support myself and never have to depend on anyone (especially a MAN to support me)in order to remain independent. These things just stay with you and especially in times of severe stress. In our effort to make everything alright and smooth it over, I know that I do quite a bit of unnecessary apologizing and might not put forward the most positive outlook and/or even have the mental resource to make suggestions. Well said everyone and best of everything in the New Year StressyHead. Purchase the Sound of Music CD and start singing like a lunatic (just might help?).

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