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he just left me

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SHIREENSMOM · 13/12/2003 17:19

my boyf has just wallked out on me as you no from other threads we havent been getting on recently i started a new job last week and im soposed to go in tonite and he hasnt come back im scared to be on my own and im going to lose my job somebody talk to me please formally nikki_19

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elena2 · 13/12/2003 17:21

Hi Nikki,
Have you got someone to look after dd while you go to work? If so, I'd still go in, sod him, don't let him destroy your confidence.

AussieSim · 13/12/2003 17:23

Whether things have been bad lately or not I guess you are going to have a difficult time for a while and so I wish you all the best to get through it. Was the bf supposed to look after your dd while you went to work? Are u afraid that your bf might become violent? Is there some friend or family nearby that can help you out so you can go to work?

marsup · 13/12/2003 17:25

Are you supposed to go in to work right now, Shireensmom/nikki? If you had an argument with your bf maybe he will just come back when he cools down and then realising you have gone to work at your new job will just give him more time to cool down some more. Can you go in to work now without him coming back, or are you relying on him to look after Shireen? I'm not sure what advice to give with so few details but I'm thinking of you!

roscoe · 13/12/2003 17:25

If you can get a babysitter, go to work and show him you're fine without him. Lots of sympathy xxx

motherinferior · 13/12/2003 17:47

If you can't go in, phone in sick. There is masses of flu about. You won't get paid for tonight, but you shouldn't lose the job either.

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SHIREENSMOM · 13/12/2003 18:22

im supposed to start at 8 yes he was supposed to look after our dd i hope he comes back i dont wanna lose my job

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roscoe · 13/12/2003 18:33

If you can't get a sitter tonight, phone in sick with lots of coughing.

Forestfly · 13/12/2003 18:48

Ring in now!!!!! Don't wait to see if he turns up, explain that you are trying to get in but may not be able to. It depends on what kind of job it is, have you signed any contracts.

lyndsey66 · 13/12/2003 19:03

Shireensmom - dont put yourself in the postion of being held captive at home wondering if he is going to turn up or not. It is more important now that you keep your job, it is a bit of independence for you - like every-one else says try and find another babysitter incase he doesnt turn up.

CountessDracula · 13/12/2003 19:06

Nikki, what are you going to do about this in the longer term? If it's not going to be possible to hold down a job now (ie if you have no alternative childcare arrangements) then it may not be worth worrying about if you see what I mean. I really hope you sort it out, I know it took a lot for you to get the job etc. xx

magnum · 13/12/2003 20:29

how are you nikki?

roscoe · 13/12/2003 21:59

Are you okay?

aloha · 13/12/2003 22:37

Hi, how are you?

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SHIREENSMOM · 14/12/2003 18:38

he came back with about 20 mins to spare and i went to work we havent spoken a word to each other since i havent worked for ages and he was the one who made me get the job i think he might be jelous because ive fineally got a life of my own without relying on him for everytink (except 4 looking after dd but then again he relys on me for that aswell if i wasnt here every day to look afer her then he wouldnt be able to work either ) STUFF HIM

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roscoe · 14/12/2003 18:44

Glad you got to work okay. Is he likely to keep doing this every time you have to work?

lyndsey66 · 14/12/2003 20:13

I thought the same as roscoe did. Is this going to happen every time you need to go to work? Is there somebody who can be like a back up babysitter just incase he has another wobbly. It is so unfair for you to be the one who is housebound - make sure you carry on with your job if it is what you want. Good for you for being more independent and dont let this situation put you off x x

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