if you had a married name did you change to your maiden name after divorce?

[zippitippitoes]

Just curious as to how common it is to stick with the married name, I'm still Mrs married name

I changed back to my maiden name and also changed dd to my maiden name. Cost about £25

Everyone I know who has divorced has gone back to their maiden name.

no went back to maiden name asap !

maiden name day i filed for divorce

oh I'm odd then!

perhaps it depends how long you're married for?
(desperate attempt to appear less weird)

someone admit to keeping exh's name please

i was only married for for 3 years - huge mistake and was still at uni .

I stayed with the married name as I needed to get a job and it would be easier for my referees. However when I started to get into a serious relationship with my now DH, there was NO WAY I was going to marry him with the jerk's name, so I reverted to my maiden name then!

My sister was only married for a couple of years, but has chosen to keep the Mrs and her married name. She kept it partly because she felt that it wasn't worth the hassle of changing everything again, and partly because she found she was taken a lot more seriously as a Mrs than a Miss. That might be an age thing though as she's only 25.

My ex's mum kept her marrie dname and she'd only been married to him for a couple of years. I htink it was so she had the same name as one of her boys.

DH's mum changed hers back to her maiden name.

I was kind of sad to give my maiden name up. Still can't think if myself as mrs I do still use the maiden name for work though - having already made a reputation it seemed stupid to change it and start again from scratch.

Changed back to maiden name before divorce by deed poll.

Twinsetandpearls, how did you change dd's surname? Did you have to get ex to agree?

I couldn't wait to change back to my maiden name.

I changed our 3 kids names too (after discussing it with them). As I was on benefits, I didn't have to pay to get it done bu a solicitor.

Hated him, hated any association with his name. Hated everything he stood for.

He agreed but his parting shot was "Doesn't matter what their names are, they will always be my kids." Fine words, considering he never saw them again. (That was 8 years ago).

zippi, my parents were together for 15/16 years when they split. Married for about 10

I kept my married name, as it was the same as my daughter's. Now have DP and DS (who has HIS father's name). So now if I change to maiden name, I'll have 2 children with different surnames to me. Don't know what to do if I marry DP...

i changed back to my maiden name

Will be keeping my married name, although will not be referring to myself as Mrs, obviously.

I actually prefer my married surname to my maiden one (heresy, I know), I want the same name as ds - and I don't intend ever getting married again, so can't see that will be a problem

I think I have bi-polar disorder because I use my married name & my maiden name.
At the school, at the doctors and on my passport, I am still my married name but everywhere else I use my maiden name.

Still use married name as don;t want DS, DD and I to all have different names (DS has fiances) but will be changing to DPs when we get married in July.

X did scream at me 'I want my name back' - just after we split though which I thought rather amusing!!

Can I ask all you that changed back to maiden name?

Are you Mrs maiden name or Mrs maiden name? I do have a reason for asking, promise!

My MIL divorced dh's dad over 20 years ago but still uses her married name. She didn't even bring her sons up - they went to live with their Dad, but he owns property and is well known in the town and she still likes the kudos of being connected to him. She even has a private number plate with an abbreviation of his surname. Quite sad really.

In dd2's class, her teacher is known as Miss A. She makes no pretence of having been married before. I just wonder, A: If I would go back to Miss and B: If I would use my married or maiden name. I think I'd prefer Mrs Married name.

Although, at work I always used my maiden name, simply because it was easier to keep it that way. I never sent out letters to the Far East saying 'yey, hey, I've got married! Now I'm Mrs Blah.'

Interesting question, zipp. Why did you stick with yours?

I was married for 20 years with that name so as far as I was concerned I had taken possession of it in my own right and it was my identity. I didn't see why I should give it up and have to build a new self with a new name. I also didn't see why I should have a different name from my children. I also don't think at the crucial time when I got divorced I was thinking about names as a priority.

I think dp might have thought I would change it.

I also use ms or mrs interchangeably. I find that most people assume you are mrs and ms is hard to say. I would feel odd if I was Miss.

If I got married again I think I would keep my name as it is now(but I don't hear dp asking tbh!)

I am a Miss maiden name.

SomanykiddiesI needed my ex's permission to change dd name. I grew up with a different surname than my mum and hated it as i was always having to correct people and explain. As my dd is going to the local catholic school which is mostly populated by quite strict Irish catholics not many of her friends will come from divorced families - infact out of her friends she is the only one as far as I know- and I wanted to make this as easy as possible for her. I gave my ex the option of incorporating his name into her new name but he wasn't interested.

I still use my married name as I wanted to have the same name as DD (I use Ms married name rather than mrs) ..am pg now so new baby will have DP's name...it's never something that I've given much consideration to tbh ...xh is a tosser whether I still have his name or not :)

my h and i have seperated and hopefully i will be out very soon fingers crossed ,i want my single name now never felt right with his any way i was till 2 days ago mrs married name yesterday was asked and was ms married name form last night decided ms single name ,lol keeping up??