Shouted at my mum tonight :(

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Dp, Ds, Dm and I went out for a meal, and I caught my mum feeding my ds diet pepsi.

So I said "Mum, no don't give him that, he'll be up all bloody night"

She said "Oh well he's got the glass now..."

"So I said "WELL TAKE IT OFF HIM THEN, HE IS NOT SUPPOSED TO HAVE DIET PEPSI, HE IS TWO, HE WILL BE UP ALL SODDING NIGHT!"

In the middle of a restaurant.

So, I could have handled that one better, obviously, because my mum looked at me as if I was mad and told me to stop shouting.

That was me placed firmly back in 12 year old land.

So, next time I feel the need to assert myself, quickly and effectively, how should I do it?

TBH I would prob have done the same so no words of wisdom, just sympathy as know how you feel, and bumping for you

my mum wpoldn't have dared give ds pepsi.you were in the right.surely it will all blow over now?

next time, just reach over and remove the glass and say' ds doesn't have this it s bad for him' very authoritatively.

Sounds like you handled it fine to me

Parents need reminding sometimes. (I bet everyone who heard you in the restaurant was on your side too)

Alexmum, I couldn't reach, or I would have just taken it away.

I completely lost my temper with her

Dont blame you. I would lose it with anyone who overtly undermined my authority with my child. My mum included. She regularly does that with my DD by giving her lemonade and haribo sweets. Doesnt see whats wrong with "spoiling" her. Doesnt get that treats dont necessarily have to have tonnes of sugar or e numbers in.

Depends VVV - was it Macdonalds?

I wouldn't have been happy either.

Toughy. Not your fault., She was effective treating you like a child (ie ignoring your request/over-ruling you) so you behaved like one by shouting.
I guess next time you try to reverse the roles and treat your mum like a child.
eg, say quietly and calmly, 'Now mum, I've asked you not to give him diet coke. Take it away from him now please'.

ask once. if not obeyed, get up from your seat, walk round to them, remove the glass and walk back to your seat. in silence. job done.

Well, what can I say? I thionk that you have solved in a minute what to many of us may take years, I'm sure your mother will be careful not to give him diet coke in the future. Now, if you ask me, I don't shout to my mother BUT I would have gone ballistic if my mum gave an aspartame loaded diet coke to my two year old.