My unborn baby

[Zoe86]

Social services are trying to take my baby away, I need advice can anybody please help me?

Hi zoe I don't have any advice but would suggest that you ask for this thread to be deleted and moved to a more appropriate topic xx

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Think people will need more information to help you. Have you had a core assessment? What do they say the risk is?

My advice would be to stay calm. Why do they want to take the baby away? Do you have someone you trust who you can take to meet with your social worker? Have a think about what support you will have and will need when the baby arrives.

8 years ago my little boy was killed by his father, and his twin was hurt too. My little girl had no fractures. My lil boy and girl got taken into care and adopted. I didnt know and didnt hurt any of my children. I was used as a witness in the criminal proceedings and in the civil i got serious failure to protect. the man who killed my son and injured my other son got 18months in prision. Ive not considered having children since my babies got taken away as they are my life, i fought for two years to have them in my care, i only get letterbox once a year. Im now in a happy relationship with a lovely man and we are expecting our little boy in july. It was a shock at first but i cant wait to meet ,y lil baby and do all the things ive missed out on. I will love, cherish and protect him to the best of my ability. This is my partners first baby. I have to live with the guilt everyday wishing i knew what was happening, the health visitors and the hospital failed to pick up on it as there were no external marks on my babies. Social services are taking me to court as soon as hes here to get an intrium care order and they want to put him in foster care. Im so scared as I cant risk losing my baby. I have to have a pre birth assessment which they havent started yet as my midwife didnt refer me until 28 weeks. I also have to have a phycological assessment for the next month once i sign to release my medical records and another assessment after hes born as they think it might trigger something... which is not true as i want my baby. Everything is happening so late. I had a child protection conference and they put me on there for physical abuse... even tho Ive never hurt anyone in my life. I dont have a criminal record and neither does my partner. My doctor, midwife and healthvisitor are all on my side but it doesnt seem to matter. I failed to protect my babies and if i would of known i would of done something. Social serives arent giving me a chance they want to take him away. I wont be able to cope losing another baby. Last time i went to court it was so secret they could do what they wanted. I was in shock and all over the place. The judge said i was culpable and lacked emotion. I need as much advise as possible please... I know i sound like a monster for not protecting my babies, If I had an inckling I would of done something.... Please help me.

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I really don't know what to say, perhaps speak to your gp? I am very sorry that you are in so much distress.

You need to get yourself a solicitor who specialises in this type of thing, ASAP.

I have spoke to my GP she thinks it's disgusting and so do my health visitor and midwife. So I have their support. I have a solicitor I'm still to meet with her. It's just these assessments aren't going to be completed by the time my bubba arrives. I'm scared they will put him in foster care. I had a meeting lastnight they think that having a baby will trigger post natel depression which isn't true. I want my son. X

I have worked in child protection in the past. My advice would be get a solicitor but you need to cooperate with social services. I cannot comment on your situation directly but social services will be taking a course of action that they believe is in the best interests of your baby. You were in a relationship where a child died and so of course they will be very concerned. You will have to be able to prove you have the ability to protect your child. This probably sounds harsh.

If they are satisfied your child will be ok then they will not remove him. They don't remove kids lightly, contrary to popular belief. You will have to jump through alot of hoops I think. My advice is cooperate to get the best outcome for your child. It won't be easy. If this means foster care initially then you may have to accept that but focus on getting the situation sorted fornthe long term.

The assessment will continue after your baby is born, that is normal. Like the pp I would not like to comment on the rights and wrongs of the case, but you must cooperate with SSD, and try not to get angry as it will not help you. You could ask your social worker to refer you to an advocacy service, and get an advocate who knows the system to come to meetings with you to support you. You can also ask the solicitor to liaise with social services to tell them you will do what ever needs to be done to cooperate. For example you could ask them to consider letting you go into a residential unit with the child after he or she is born, so that can assess you on a 24 hour basis. They may or may not agree but they will give you an explanation of why if they do not. I wish you the best of luck and hope that the outcome is the best one for you all.

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Hi, how are you getting on with the SSD keep us updated and go and see your MP you never know he might be able to help.