not sure where to post this but hoping you can help by brother as i have no experience of PND and am sure his partner does not have it but using it as an excuse to get rid of him or control him.
background is that they had been together about 4 years and db was thinking of splitting up, she knows this and suddenly becomes pregnant "by accident" which then becomes an "illness" in her eyes and everyone has to run around her and forever at the docs during the whole pregnancy. Anyway he stays with her to make it work. she has only ever worked part time and had no intention of ever working full time (now wants db to give up job so she can claim benefits for them all). at first she rents a house solely in her name and claims benefits until baby born however brother carpets and furnishes it throughout, buys baby stuff etc. baby born and he moves in and makes her do everything above board - ie tell the council, dwp etc. she is not happy with this as she wants to pretend he is not living there but he refuses. two months down the line and she has spent the last two months complaining how she can't cope, how my brother (who is working all hours) should help with night feeds etc as she is too tired. she refuses to go to bed during the day when she has the chance, even when brother offers to look after baby and permenantly is on her phone (even when feeding baby) texting friends and family, spends all her money on her family and friends but not on baby and house and then demands my brother pay for everything (he pays most of the bills anyway etc). she is always trying to get either set of grandparents to look after baby whenever she can, eg to go shopping etc. she is very snappy at my brother to the point where he says he cannot take it anymore. she is constantly on the phone to him asking where he is and he can't even go on the internet for 10 mins without 101 questions or to a friends for half an hour. he has even had to tell her off for feeding baby babyfood at 7 weeks old. on top of that if there is nothing wrong with her there is always something wrong with the baby, (illness wise) and forever going to the doctors. as well as this she now does not speak to anyone of our family for no apparent reason.
my brother doesnt know what to do? does this sound like PND or is this an excuse. she has only been diagnosed with it since someone made a snide comment about it and then off she went to the doctors. he doesnt want to leave her, especially caring for baby, if she is suffering PND but if he is being taken for a ride then that's a different matter.
i dont know what to say to him. any advice i can pass on from you experienced MNs?