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how do you make builders make thier own

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zippitippitoes · 16/02/2006 12:01

tea?

I have put the kettle and teamaking stuff on the washing machine and told them three days ago they could make their own so that they had it when they wanted it but so far they haven't made any

but

once I feel guilty they haven't had it I say would you like some tea they jump at the idea

I am confused

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stitch · 16/02/2006 12:03

i always offer to make them one mug of tea or coffee a day.
i dont let them get their own. and even if htey are working for ten hours, i rarely offer more than one mug.

helsi · 16/02/2006 12:03

they are just too busy to make tea I suppose - deadlines to meet on the job and all that. never too busy to drink it though!

suzywong · 16/02/2006 12:05

natural selection it would seem zippity. Clearly your builders would have died of thirst in the wild.

You can lead a horse to water and all that.

Way to go you hardcore lady Stitch

KBear · 16/02/2006 12:05

I would keep them sweet with regular cuppas! Happy builders - fast workers in my experience.

throckenholt · 16/02/2006 12:07

I agree with KBear - make them tea about every 2 hours - keeps them sweet and that is a god thing . Make friends with the builders and they are more likely to be helpful if things get tricky.

Mazzystar · 16/02/2006 12:12

i think that as a species they are unable to make tea. we had somework done in our yard last summer and i left them the stuff - wide selection of biscuits etc - and it remained untouched, but the "lad" (who was about 40) kept being sent to the caff down the road to bring back takeaways in polystyrene cups.

i usually make them one when i'm having one myself.

stitch · 16/02/2006 12:18

i did once offer the painter lunch.....
but he wsa lovely. and he was too busy to go for lunch and wanted to order a pizza, and since i was making lunch for my kids, i offered him some!

i think a proffesional will take pride in hs work. being polite and appreciative etc is more important.

dh's aunt used to make them lunch and dinner, and im not talking just plain sandwichs either. her thinking was similar, try and keep them sweet.... never seen such a crap job of decorating before.

CoolTurkey · 16/02/2006 12:30

My builders are making themselves a cuppa even as we speak. This is great (one job less for me to do) as although they make it themselves when I am out, they normally wait to be offered if I am in.
However, should I instead be worried? Is this ominous? Are they making themselves at home? I was expecting them to be finished by the end of the week....

CoolTurkey · 16/02/2006 12:31

Maybe it is because I make a lousy cup of tea.

Kelly1978 · 16/02/2006 12:37

do mosty men ever make their own tea? I can't say I know many. Though a v nice father at the childrens center made me one last week, I was quite

zippitippitoes · 16/02/2006 12:55

it was dps idea to put tea making stuff for them..

he has been a labourer and says they mostly made their own

I have always made it myself but

this time ythey are building a whole house

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Troutpout · 16/02/2006 12:58

When have had builders/plumbers in, they have only made it while i have been out...they always wait to be offered if i'm in.

Nightynight · 16/02/2006 13:05

Im with Kbear - keep them sweet!

zippitippitoes · 16/02/2006 13:21

I suppose the next question is..

do you/should uyo offer biscuits and if so how nice ?

I'm non biscuit myself

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BettySpaghetti · 16/02/2006 13:23

Dps a builder but , contrary to popular belief, he and his labourer don't actually drink that much tea/coffee when working.

I know hes said before that some customers make lousy tea and he only drinks "real" coffee so he tends to decline their offers more often than not. He also goes through phases of drinking peppermint tea etc which a lot of people don't have.

A builder that drinks herbal tea, speaks 4 languages and has a degree -not your average builder really!

Back to the topic though -if they're not there long-term (cos if they are you'll be making a rod for your own back!)cake and biscuits go down very well and keep them v. happy.

HappyDaddy · 16/02/2006 13:38

It's taken our builder about 4 visits, for different jobs, to be relaxed enough to make his own tea. He's brilliant, cheap and a decent bloke too. My dw makes him fry ups and apple crumbles and stuff when he's here. One day he came to do a morning's work, dw cooked a massive fry up and he was relieved it rained cos he was so full he couldn't move! He kept apologising for days after.

bluesky · 16/02/2006 13:42

We had builders in for 10 months, I started off giving them all the bits/pieces, they had their own kettle, I was out and about coz it was kids hols.

Then when kids went back to school, I would make them one when I made mine, because I found it a great excuse to take it up to them and see what they were actually doing, were things in the right place, straight line, as I wanted etc etc.

Biscuits were once in a blue moon, actually they would probably predict each month when they were going to come out!!

By the end though, I just wished that once in a while they would have offered me a cuppa!

throckenholt · 16/02/2006 13:43

we don't do biscuits.

I have felt very sorry for our builders in the recent cold weather - when it was very cold I would offer tea or coffee more frequently and the speed at which they said yes was always a good indication of how cold they were

CoolTurkey · 16/02/2006 16:00

Gosh, BettySpag, how wonderful, an intelligent builder, just what we need. Where do you live? Actually to be fair, builders around here are pretty good.
I sometimes wonder if it would be a good career for my son (16, Oxbridge material, but does the bare minumum at school). His work experience doing computing in an office almost drove him to distraction with boredom and the silence, but he enjoys outdoor labouring work for friends.
So, would your dp think it a good career move? How and why did he get into it?

BettySpaghetti · 16/02/2006 16:20

Sorry to hijack and bore everyone but CoolTurkey, to answer some of your questions (DP not here at the mo), he did a degree and went into European sales because of the languages but soon realised it was mind-numbingly DULL! He spent a few years doing bits and pieces then did a bit of labouring for a friend of a a friend and realised he fancied the idea of carpentry.

He was very fortunate to be taken on by a lovely, experienced guy who taught him everything about building in general. He then went on to work for himself and now either works solo on smaller jobs or employs labourers, plasterers etc for bigger jobs.

He loves the variety of work (something your DS might appreciate), the design element (when people want built-in custom-made storage, ideas for extensions etc) and most importantly, being his own boss!

On the down-side it is hard physical work, very unpleasant and unglamorous at times (digging foundations in cold, wet weather) and he never has time to work on our house .

Customers do really appreciate him. I think so many have preconceived ideas about builders being uncouth and uneducated that they are surprised. He has also never had to advertise as all his work is through word of mouth and recommendations so I guess hes really lucky.

CT -if your DS is enjoying the labouring maybe he should take a year out and do that to see if it still appeals after a winter of hard graft. If not, all is not lost and he can go on to college and maybe do something related like architecture where his experience may come in handy?

Good luck!

Normsnockers · 16/02/2006 16:36

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CoolTurkey · 16/02/2006 16:40

Thanks for the long and lovely advice, Betty.
He will do the 6th form and subjects he hasn't done before (law, philosphy, psychology) so who knows, he may suddenly become interested, work hard and become a filthy rich lawyer and keep me in luxury in my old age and I can the give my builders all the biscuits they can eat.

Sorry to everyone for hijacking the thread but it struck such a loud chord I couldn't let it pass .

BettySpaghetti · 16/02/2006 16:47

Thats OK CT, anytime

zippitippitoes · 17/02/2006 09:05

Result!!

I just thought oh I'd better make them one and they've already done it and brought their own jar of coffee!

We don't really drink coffee so hadn't had any in to offer

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brimfull · 17/02/2006 09:22

when we had our extension done I asked the builders when they had their tea break.

as with most builders it was moring break at 10am and lunch at 1pm.

I made them a coffee if I was in at those times and left them the stuff to do it for themselves if not.Don't think they made it themselves more than once or twice.

Left them biscuits but they never ate them, so stopped that.

I agree that you should atleast offer,treat others as you would like to be treated is my motto