would you take a child with sickness and diahorrea into a hospital to visit someone?

[misdee]

(i do know the answer btw)

we stayed the weekend on the 3rd(ish?), but when we came back home i feel really ill within a few hours. i have had blocked sinuses this week and the pain is just clearing now. throat still sore, genereally run down.

Please don't feel guilty because of the MIL, misdee - or anyway - if the kids are off-colour and so are you then you really can't go and guilt doesn't come into it, you would go if you could, she is a silly mare.

I really think you need a break Misdee. You sound very run down (hardly surprising). I honestly think you should steer clear of the hospital untill you are sure you are all clear of the bug, most of these people will have such supressed immunity. Its just not fair. Your MIL can't argue with that. How will Peter take it? that is what is important.

Peter has asked his nurse how much clearence we need she said a full24 and 1 night, hmmmm so 9pm tomorrow night then.

just know i'll get moaned at if i dont go in.

oh and apparently i only call when i want something. well they never call me to arrnage to see their grandkids, so wtf am i meant to do? the kids are innocents in all this and want to see their grandparents.

Shes having a tough time too Misdee. She is being unreasonable, absolutely but please just try and let it wash over you. xxx

sounds MIL is feeling (understandably) very stressed by the situation with Peter - however you are even more hardpressed in terms of practicalities of combining the hospital visits with emotional strain of the situation and looking after 3 young kids. MIL may very well need someone to vent at/boost her ego/chit chat to - but it's not fair for her to expect it to be you!

her kids have grown up, youngest is 22years old, my youngest is almost 1yr old. they need me too. i cant physically split myself in half, and i know MIL thinks i am below her (says i am from a working class family and they are middle class), and yes she goes in every day. but i cant. i just cant.

Well maybe it would be easier for you to go in every day if she put herself out a bit to make it easier for you, misdee. Cow. (Sorry)

exactly janh. 3 days a week during school hours i try and get in, but its a rush getting therem, spending a decent amount of time with peter and getting home in time to get dd1 from school. the other 2 school days i dont have time as dd2 is on hlaf days at pre-school. i dont go after school as the kids are shattered. we go in at weekends, staying when we can.

I know you were going to go and see peter today (wed) because you said that yesterday (tues) while you were here. Ignore her, she seems to have forgotten you have 3 littlies to look after too, unfortunely this is the time of year for bugs, colds and sickness.
And Btw i saw in the newspaper that they believe that the norovirus has claimed the life of a 15 year old girl, so tell that to MIL and tell her to put it in her pipe and smoke it....

well, i went by myself, my mum watched the kids for me. good job she did as dd3 did a v v explosive nappy whilst i was out. now aiming for saturday visit as the kids need new shoes again, and i have promised them a bit of fun over the holidays.