girly advice needed....

[bubblepop]

right..sorry if this is a ramble.....ive got this 'once a year friend' whom ive known for years, we went to college together 18yrs ago.we only see eachother once a year, don't know why its like this because we don't live that far away from eachother,but i guess both of us are just busy with our lives.when we do catch up, theres always plenty to talk about, and we get on really well,its like we just take up where we left off last time,if u know what i mean.
anyway,in the last visit,she cut short and seemed to want to leave not long after arriving.the time before that she spent an hour on her doorstep talking to another friend, leaving me in the house feeling awkward.i phoned her in sept to tell her i was expecting in dec, she seemed very pleased for me and promised to arrange a meet up in oct,..nothing happened. anyway, dec came, baby was born, no phone call to find out the news,and to this day ive heard nothing from her.she doesnt even know if ive had the baby and that we are all safe and well. i havn't phoned her because...well i don't know why...i guess im thinking she wants to end this friendship but does'nt know how to tell me, so well, have i been dropped or what?

If I were you I'd stop bothering to contact her and see if she makes any effort. Life's too short, people drift apart and make way for new friends in your life. I don't hang around people who drain me, unless they have a good reason for it such as illness or genuine problems which make it worth your putting in some extra effort.

yeah i would leave it ,if it was me but then again you may want to call her to keep the friendship going, but by the sounds of it I think it has fizzled out by her leaving early at past meet ups.

Poor you, it really sucks when life gets in the way of friendship like that. It doesn't look too good, but equally she may be at home thinking "shit I really should have called bubblepop, can't believe I didn't get round to it. She must hate me, I can't call her now..." and you'll never know unless you call her. I know you shouldn't have to, but if it's upsetting you it may be worth one more go. Some people are just a bit crap, she might be thrilled to hear from you and full of apologies. If not, well, who needs a friend who'd be so rude anyway.

Sorry though, I know a situation like this can really hurt.

Poor you, why not send her a card and maybe a photo of your latest lo? Takes the pressure off you to have a potentially awkward conversation and it may give your friend the excuse she needs to get back in touch. I keep in touch with quite afew people via letters and cards and it really works well. Good luck.

Nope wouldn't bother me....I have become like this with my friend since having children we have just slowly drifted apart and now just contact each other once a flood. Get out and meet new friends, thats my advice.