New Child Modelling Thread

[mykidsmum]

Here we go

bore me Cyan whats up??

what did you say!? I bet she's a sweetie, has she had any work?

allie, big L been in bed since 5.30 (not a sleep, no electrical gadgets on!)just checked, he asleep. he put his new quilt cover on earlier and it pongs of like bad egg! think my machine must have gone wrong. i sprayed it all over with his deodrant , couldnt be bothered to put a new one on!lazy bitch.

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cyan, just boot him out back to his place tonight.youre so stressed with everything, poor you, you need some time on your own to veg out without SD hogging your sofa

My ds dad and I are together but this sounds hideous and dont feel I should be saying this but not sure how I feel about him, and I've felt like this for ages. He doesnt stimulate me in anyway (mentally that is) and I do absolutely everything for ds. FFS he wasnt even there when ds was born, but we arent allowed to talk about that. I have brought up my son whilst juggling a full time degree, etc etc. Ds dad comes round and treats my home like a hotel. To be fair he does cook most nights that he is here, but as for everything else I do. He has given ds only 2 baths since he was born, never came with me to any antenatal things, never taken ds to docs or come with me. And what I ever I do is not good enough. But every time we break up he doesnt take me seriously and trys to say that I have issues! Makes out that im some sort of unstable person. AM now v embarassed for unloading all of this becasue you probably all think that I am mad!!!

ooh cyan,youre not mad! if you love him, you'l stay with him till you wake up one morning and think "ive had enough"and wotever he says to you, you wont change your mind and he will realise exactly wot he has thrown away. he'l always regret that

izzy> i think that they have it sorted there. I think they will look after the kids on their books, and they seem v positive. Will see how it goes with UA, but will keep them in mind. Glad they liked Charlie! He was v flirtatious with Ashley when we were there!! WHo takes the photos? x

Oh cyan, that sounds dreadful, unwinding on the internet though is something we can all do, it is an outlet and should never be something you feel bad about. What do you want to happen? Would you feel happier on your own? Nobody deserves tio be treated like that, however we all accept bad behaviour from blokes at times for a quiet life, but does that make it acceptable?

On the mental stimulation front, me and dp are poles apart and i too find this very difficult

we have nothing in common and with hindsigth half the time i wonder why we ever got together?! He never supports anything I do, and just leaves me to do everything by myself. I have just gone upstairs and asked him why he has spoken to me like shite over the last few days, and he just says he hasnt. I feel suffocated in my own home. Im always apologising and he never does. Maybe I have answered my own concerns but am too scared to be 'officially' on my own. I survived 100 miles away from him and the rest of my family for a long time, so I suppose if it came to the crunch I can survive without him.

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that's it, he asks me what I want and I repeatedly tell him, support. I find it v difficult coming from a childhood where my dad absolutely adored his kids, and spent as much time as possible with them when he was off work, and because of this my dad is 1 of my best mates. Ds dad isn't like this at all, which I find v hard. men

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I guess men differ in their relationships with their kids depending on their own experiences. You may find as your chil;dren get older he wants to become more involved, but its a difficult one.

night izzy!!! will let you know how everything goes. xxxx

Do you have a good relationship in other ways, aside from children or are you feeling that if you didn't have children you wouldn't be together?

cyanhave you got real best mate near to you, someone you can ring and moan to?

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night izzy

mykidsmum> i try not to compare him to my dad, but when im angry i just end up blurting everything out. agree on different experience thing, as his parents are v different to mine. My parents are v laid back about things, cna tell them anything really. His family are more uptight then mine. When they found out I was pregnant, his mum called us a 'pair of f*cking idiots'. As much as I like her she is a self righteous woman, and v cocksure of things which I find unbearable at times!! I think everyone has a right to saying soemthing but not to try and tell someone how to raise their child. AAAhhh am just unloading everything now!!!!!

night izzy

i find that question so difficult to answer! i think having ds has changed everything, so maybe we wouldnt be in this situation. i'd probably be half way round the world again. but being v honest, i think we are together mainly for ds sake. i have said this to him and he poopoos it.

7s my bestest friend in the whole world came round tonight, we have been ebst mates since we were 3! she has done so much for me, and I moan to her alot and vice versa but she cant fully understand as she hasnt got kids, doesnt plan on having any either!, and is quite brutal when it comes to men> put it this way she aint no doormat!!!!

OMG your mil sounds just like mine. My dp and i had very different upbringings and i have to try and rememeber that the values intalled into me are not necessarily the ones he holds. we frequently argue about this as i find his family absolutely disgraceful, but I have to accept that they are responsible for the way he is, and instead of getting cross with him, try and make him see how I see things. that does not mean I am right just tha we have different opinions.

oh no!best mate with no kids and that hates men!bless her she wont have a clue wot youre going through will she. great that youve kept in touch for so long and are still so close, its really hard to keep friendships close when you have kids and are too busy for socialising. we definitely gota meet up, i am a bit of a man hater but i am a mum. is he asleep cyan.are you sleeping ok with the worries of your exams?