Seems my son is allowed to be bullied because he can be naughty

[overdraft]

My son is being bullied by my friends son at school.He keeps pinching him,kneeing him in the back and punching.
This was brought to my attention by another friend who watched the class playing netball last week.
When i spoke to the teacher he said he would look into it.
On Mondaythe boy was told to leave ds alone because he was playing to rough.When i spoke to the teacher on Tuesday he said that this had not been reported to him.He said in fact mt ds had jumped on his best friends back whist playing.Ds had also been naughty at school that day.The teacher said in fact if ds was going to be like this he can't really come and complain about my freinds child.
Surley these are seperate incidents? what do you think? I feel like i haven't a leg to stand on because my son jumped on another childs back.
I have complained before about the acceptable games that are played in the playground.My son has dyslexia and is not as mature as other class mates unfortunatly.
The boy pinched his legs today under the desk because ds was on the wrong page.

pehaps just needed someone to tell me i was right to feel this way. o.k thank you anyway

No, I would see it as separate incidents tbh. OK, so your DS should be told off for jumping on the other boy, but I don't think it's a suitable punishment that he should then be 'allowed' to pick on your DS.

I would keep a record of the incidents, and put something in writing. It doesn't sound like the teacher is very sympathetic, so maybe you should copy it to the headteacher as well. DOes your DS have any kind of support? Could you discuss it with the SENCO?

Thankl you serenity for posting.Feeling low today. Do you know i was just thinking that. I think he also needs support to help his social skills too.
Because he is imature and does things like this he can get on the others nerves.They treat him like a dim wit because of his school work too. When i last saw the l.e.a pycologist she mentioned that he shoul be incouraged to be freinds with like inteligent children.He is very inteligent infact but he socialises with the children he sits with

I think you are right to feel the way you do, overdraft.

If this was recommended by the ed psych, would it be possible to have a meting with the teacher, review the ed psych's recommendations and point out that they are not being implemented?

Poor little guy.

How old?

he is 9 Blu

he is really small for his size and does tend to get pushed about.He thinks it is a game

I don't think that there is any excuse for someone being bullied tbh. And the teacher should be stepping in to speak to both boys. If your ds is being a bit naughty then that has to be dealt with as a different issue but it would be good if he, or someone at the school, sat down with both boys and discussed both behaviours together.

That way if the other boy is using it as an excuse then your ds would be able to get his point across and your ds would hear what this other boy has to say about jumping on him. If he even did that!

Having said that being on the wrong page is definitely no reason to get a pinch on the legs!

I had a childminded boy who was pretty naughty and thought nothing of having a go at other children. However, if any other children were horrible to him (unprovoked), there was a "well, he's really naughty/violent himself, so what does he expect?" If anyone ever got hurt near him, he would also get the blame for that because he "probably" did something.

Overdraft - I agree with others, these are separate incidents and should be dealt with accordingly. The thing that helped the lad I cared for was having a new and extremely capable teacher who wasn't interested in any "labels" this boy had, and wanted to get to know him for himself, and he was able to see his potential (and intelligence) and rewarded him accordingly. It made all the difference to his behaviour.

What? If he hits others, its ok for them to hit him? FFS, what does that teach kids! Its not Lord of the Flies (or shouldn't be).

I would be severely p**d off if I was told this by a teacher.

Also-your ds is being repeatedly targetted, that needs sorting out. FFS!

he ahs been pinching ds today and his teacher said that he never saw it but have you told your mum what you have been up to today.
They have a naughty book at school which i saw on Monday.It had 2 entrys on my sons page then and now it is half full.It seems they have been watching ds like a hawlk since i complained

the boy that is doing it to ds page was next to his.It didn't even mention the netball incident.It had one entry about he had been racist to another child.I remember that too because when his mum went in he said he didn't say it.This was not whitnessed by a teacher either so why was this put in the book.
Just feel like it is a bloody smoke screen because they don't want to deal with it

Can you ask for ds or the other boy to be moved away a place or two in class?

What about asking for a meeting with the headteacher?

Overdraft
Can you not have a quiet word with your friend, and just say that you know kids go thru' these phases, but your ds is being made unhappy by her ds - can you work it thru' together?