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Joint parties - what's the etiquette re presents?

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tassis · 31/01/2006 12:57

New to all this party thing so please humour me!

Ds has been invited to a 3rd b'day party of a girl he knows and one of her friends (who we've never even heard of).

Do we just turn up with gift for child we know, or get something wee for her friend?

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Mud · 31/01/2006 12:59

the latter

cod · 31/01/2006 12:59

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Auntymandy · 31/01/2006 12:59

I think I would get something small for the other.

WigWamBam · 31/01/2006 13:00

As you don't know the other girl then I would just take a present for the child your ds knows. The endless round of birthday parties gets expensive enough as it is, without having to buy for children you don't know!

mszebra · 31/01/2006 13:02

Around here people seem to get an equal gift for each child. I gave 2 sticker books for a joint 4yo party, and £3 each (which I think was a bit mean in retrospect ) to a joint 6yo party.

purpleturtle · 31/01/2006 13:03

I would just buy for the child we knew.

cod · 31/01/2006 13:03

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katyp · 31/01/2006 13:06

My ds is going to a party soon which is a joint one for THREE boys in his class. I've got them all the same boardgame (cheap in Tescos). I have been finding lately that I've got a lot more stingy on how much I spend on party gifts, unless it's an actual friend. And tbh, what child needs 30 gifts (if they've invited the whole class I mean). Should really try to organise some joint presents I suppose...

fisil · 31/01/2006 13:06

Please please please only buy one for the child you know. We share parties with a friend and it really embarrasses me if one of his invitees buys a pressie for ds1.

SoupDragon · 31/01/2006 13:25

Just the child you know. I have a joint party for DS1 and 2 every year and no way do I expect DS1s friends to buy DS2 a present or vice versa!! Madness.

Pfer · 31/01/2006 13:41

Def just for the child you know.

Hulababy · 31/01/2006 20:42

I agre with others. Only buy for the child you know. That is what we did when we went to one.

GDG · 31/01/2006 20:43

Ds1 is having his party jointly with a girl in his class. She is inviting the girls and ds is inviting the boys - we are letting people know that you only bring a gift for who invited you, even though they all know each other.

PeachyClair · 31/01/2006 21:03

We had a joint party last month (ds1 and ds2) and we only expected (is that the right word? Wouldn't have minded if they hadnt but you know what I mean I hope) gifts from their own friends. A couple of people did both, but very few.

hannahsaunt · 31/01/2006 21:04

Absolutely just the child you know - when ds1 shared his b'day parties with his bf (you remember??) I would have been mortified if bf's cousin, who also came to the party for example, bought ds1 a present and equally ds1's cousin didn't buy for bf but was at party. HTH!

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tassis · 31/01/2006 21:21

Thanks everyone. Phew, only one gift required.

Now I need to decide what to buy a 3 year old girl who has 2 older brothers. But that's the easy bit!

(Hi HA! Do remember the party. It was lovely. Think I'll copy your icing muffins idea for ds' 3rd...)

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