i'm going to do it

[CKMUM]

Things got better for a while but the last few days my husband who I split with a year ago, has been so awful, coming round all the time, now he has thrown my keys at me and the photo keyring with a special photo in has broken. I know its trivial but having that special keyring broken was the last straw; I cried my eyes out and wanted to stab him. I have decided no matter how much hassle is it, I am going to take the plunge and leave the area ... again.

I hate him so much, I am not taking the children away from me, he doesn't want them anyway, he uses them to get to me and I am not takig anymore. I am going for good and I am not telling anyone where.

Sorry, had to get that off my chest; I left before, he found me, said I wasn't allowed to go anywhere with his children unless he came to. I have got to go as I am sick of feeling I have to die to get away fgrom him

what a terrible situation
do you have someone to go to?..someone who will keep him away from you so you have a couple of days/weeks to have some time with your children and decide what you want to do?
you sound like you really need a break, so i hope you can get some help from family / friends.
good luck
x

CKMUM how awful for you!

I'm not expert, but if your ex is the threatening type, could you go to lawyer/courts to get an injuction? So he will have to leave you alone?

Good luck!

Good luck, CKMUM. I really hope that you get away and create a new and happier life for you and your children.

Have you thought of ringing Women's Aid? They could be a big help, you know.

Have spoken to womens aid; reguge life can be quite difficult, because of the ages of my children i really need ground floor room so i dont have to carry them both up and downstairs, womens aid advised me to go to council in whatever area i decide to choose and then ask for emergency accomodation

Ah, okay. Have you identified an area to head for? Do you have a car?

any area in mind? where are you now? how far away is far enough? how are you going to get there? do you need any help? - i will do anything i have the ability to

i am in oxford, i don't drive, i was thinking of wales or somerset area

Hello CKmum, sorry you are having such a horrible time.
before you set off for a new start, it might be advisable to put down a few 'markers' so that you get a sympathetic reaction from the council if you go to them in a new area. They will need to be satisfied that you were escaping from a bad situation otherwise they may just try to refer you back to where you came from. So for example, you should report any incidents of domestic violence or threats to the police - not expecting them necessarily to follow it up, but so that you have it on record as to why you feel unable to stay where you are. Alsoi if you can go to an area where you have some connection - eg family - not only might you get some support there, but also the council will have a reason to accept you, ie you have a 'local connection' as they call it.
best of luck

Ihave family in somerset thats why i was thinking of there

how it going CKMum?

bump

just bought my train ticket, hope i get some accomodation, terrified. Just as i was about to buy ticket i found him behind me so he would have known where i was going, left station, went to toilet, he was gone when i came out, so went back and bught ticket for travel on thursday. Just hope he doesnt follow me to station then

good luck

thanks

he doesnt know you've bought a ticket for thursday though does he so how would he know to follow you? also think you should take a friend with you to the station so he cant follow you. you will feel safer & stronger if there is someone with you to wave you off til you're safe.
he cant stop you from leaving you're not his property. good luck and let us know when you are settled.

thanks lovemygirls