I have been Very Naughty - someone please slap my wrists for me [blush]

[TambaTheInnocentPrincess]

I have done some thing really bad.

As some of you know I have been feeling broody lately, Dh hasnt... He is concerned about finances etc, He doesnt want to try for another baby but not to the point where he would be miserable if we had an accident iyswim.

Anyway

Last night we were in bed, and I had the comdon in my hand. I opened it and my nail caught it and it tore a little at the top (well I wasnt sure it had but thought it may have - it was dark)

And then the naughty bit... I didnt tell him. I just let him carry on.

Afterwards, I was worried that it had ripped etc and feeling very guilty if it had of done (I have no right to make dh think we are being careful when infact we wernt. It is deceptive and not the sort of thing I would normally do.)

So I ran it under the tap to check... and it did have a hole in it.

I feel very guilty now. Im at myself.

Tell him?????

Why would I want to do that?? I have been deceptive and very naughty! He wont be pleased to hear that!

Have got to go to the doctors between 3-5 to talk to them about what I can do.

I think my suggestion is perfect. If she was going to tell him she should have done it last night.

up to you ofcourse.

i would tell him you might be. we were trying for no2 but hubby was still shocked when i told him. i think as far as finances go you manage. youve got all the gear already.

wait and see - i COULDNT tell dh now as it is too far after the event - the whole get jiggy tonight and say shit it split is my way of dealing with it - but then again,Jessica is 18 months, Becky is only 13 weeks and DH wants another (make of that what you will!!!)

i mean tell him you think it may have split. you don't have to go into details.

tell him that you were really worried about what he would say and that's why you didn't say straight away. that you have the dr appt etc etc

I have been and got the morning after pill.

awww tamba - i know how you feel but you did the right thing, deceiving your dh isnt the best way to get a baby but i cant totally understand why you did it though.
i was like that about 2 years ago, i was desperate for another baby and my dp refused to even talk about it and now we have a beautiful 4mth old dd. i told him how strongly i wanted another baby and then gave him some space for a few months and then we talked again and he set a time we could start trying. hope it works out for you and he changes his mind soon