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anyone got good 'mother in law' stories?

51 replies

COOKIE578 · 19/01/2006 13:36

only because mine said to me the other w'end 'what, you mean I won't get to see my grandson being born' (when i told her my own mum would be with me again at the birth aswell as my partner). can't think of anything worse than her seeing all that! am i being mean?!

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Orinoco · 23/01/2006 21:45

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cathyspam · 23/01/2006 21:50

I am very lucky to have a lovely MIL who has always been there for me (my own mum has passed away) and I am really upset as she is in hospital at the moment and nobody knows what is wrong with her

nell12 · 23/01/2006 21:51

That reminded me!!!!!!!!!!!
At our engagement party (after being together 3 years) MIL took DH to one side and told him that he was making a huge mistake and there was still time to back out!
Ha Ha Ha Ha Ha Ha Ha Ha Ha Ha Ha Ha Ha Ha!!!!!!!

Orinoco · 23/01/2006 21:52

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cathyspam · 23/01/2006 21:55

I know Orinoco! The think she may have problems with her liver and kidneys as well as the angina and diabetes she already has!

Medea · 23/01/2006 22:30

Well I think a couple of things MIL has said to me have been shockingly thoughtless. I've mentioned them here before but no one's remarked, so maybe these examples are actually not all that "good." But I think they are. . .so here ya go!

  1. I'd been ill for several months with glandular fever. I'd just recovered. Had a convesation with MIL the week before MIL's wedding.

MIL: How are you feeling?
Me: Much, much better, thank you.
MIL: Oh thank goodness--you'll look good for our wedding photos.

  1. Rewind a few years. Dh and I had just become engaged. We were living in NYC. MIL & SIL flew over to visit, and to meet my parents.

My Mother: We are so happy Medea is marrying your son. We think very highly of him & have come to love him as though he is already part of the family.
MIL: [silence] [nod] (smile) [more silence]

  1. I made a quiet appearance on WWB's xmas pressie thread when MIL bought me gift ribbon PERSONALIZED with the words "A gift from Mr & Mrs Medea!" (a) I use my maiden name (b) I never use ribbon, preferring to be minimal with my wrapping--so hey, maybe this was a hint! and (c) I should have thought the fact of my handing someone a gift made it obvious enough that the gift is from me? Tragically, I seen to have "lost" that lovely spool of ribbon. Oh, no!
yackertyyack · 23/01/2006 22:37

I am worried now about becomeing a MIL myself - although DS1 is only 1 and No2 isn't even born yet!!! BUT do you think that you just become evil over night is it a gradual thing!!!!!

moondog · 23/01/2006 22:39

That ribbon thing is too weird for words!

(Asan aside,although married Iuse my name and send post back if it is addressed to both of us in DH's name. Iam trying to pluck up the courage to do it with Christmas cards now.)

lact8 · 23/01/2006 22:49

My MIL is a complete nightmare. She's really nice when P is there but she ignores me if she sees me in on my own in the street or in town. i can cope with that (don't want to spend time with her myself) but pees me off that she'll ignore her own grandchildren...
AND she bought ds2(22mths) an electric drum machine for xmas!!!..knowing that dd would only be 2 weeks old.

Are GrandmotherIL stories allowed? Cos MIL's mum is even worse....

muma3 · 23/01/2006 22:55

my mil is mary poppins in disguise.

i was married to her son and have a child with him. i also had a dd before from previous relationship. my mil takes both children to her house on a weekend and has them for tea on a wed night. i have been divorced from exp for 8 months and have been sperated for 3 years previous to that .

she never treated my eldest dd any different and still doesnt , you wouldnt know the difference.

i have a new relationship now and have a beautifull dd3 . ( yes 3dd - 3diff dads )

she now wants to take my youngest to her house aswell on a wed eve for a few hours !!!

she takes me to hospital if need be and even brought my eldest 2dd's in to hossie when i had my dd3 .

she buys me and my new dp christmas and b day prezzies and i think she has even said that its her sil by mistake a few times

she would do just about anything to help me out and i cherish her dearly

( and the award for supernan/ex mil / friend goes to .....)

Ailsa · 23/01/2006 23:27

My MIL has her moments.

She moaned at dh this morning, saying that she's taken ds to school nearly every day and had no thanks for doing it. She had to eat her words when dh told her that he'd been paying money into her bank account every week for the last 5 or 6 years - and she hadn't even noticed!! She went back home, checked her bank statement then promptly rang dh to apologise!!

BudaBabe · 23/01/2006 23:58

muma3 - you are lucky - she sounds great!

My Mum is a nightmare at the mo - was shocked 2 weeks ago to be told ath DS and I would be home in Dublin for his half-term - I "sprung it" on her - 6 weeks in advance.

MIL - well she talks a lot - NEVER shuts up . Is my DH's step-mum in fact - maried his Dad when DH was 23. But is lovely really. Was a Reception teacher for years so is fab with DS (4) - makes garages etc from cardbord boxes etc! Has infinte time and patience - more than me!!

PeachyClair · 24/01/2006 14:13

muma3 she really sounds lovely.

I too worry about becoming a MIL, having 3 boys. I have asked Dh to tell me if I ever become evil, but I do have matriarchal tendencies
so I shouldn't be surprised if dil's one day think I am evil and post on here too. I will try tho honest, I would love a higher oestrogen balance in the family. I did welcome FIL's fiancee with open arms straight into the family, i hope that's a good sign, we work very hard indeed to make her feel welcome. But then knowing DIL's I'll be trying too hard then!

My Dh loves my Mum, funny how men seem to be accepted more easily.

Do we get a muminlawsnet for when the kids leave home, or a Grandmasnet? maybe just emptynestnet in case no-one wants the grubby little toe rags (min obv).

alicatsg · 24/01/2006 14:22

my MIL spent the whole of Christmas calling me by a name that is not mine own. You would think that after 14 years she could have got the hang of it by now.

I felt so loved.....!

babyonboard · 24/01/2006 16:01

oooh..anyone from the due in nov.2005 thread will back me up on my insane mil.
recent ones are when i took our new baby to see her and every time i tried to pull his trouser leg down or put his glove back on she quite violently batted my hand away and said 'i've got him!' very fiercly.
she also came down while i was still in hospital post birth and decorated our flat with a crappy fake xmas tree and loads of glittery decorations. (it was still november), worst thing is we felt to guilty to take anything down so lived with it for over a month..i'm sure she meant well..but..hmph.

babyonboard · 24/01/2006 16:08

oh and i forgot the worst, i came out of hospital at 5pm having been told i could go home but had to come back in 3 hours to pick up my antibiotics, and she refused to drive dp to the hospital to get them for me, so he ended up spending 2 hours of his sons first night at home on buses to and fom the hospital while she sulked at his 'rudeness' for even asking and barely spoke a word to me.
not good!

babyonboard · 24/01/2006 16:18

oops misread the thread title..
i'd like to nominate my own mum on dp's behalf...
they came down (200ish miles)when i realised i was in labour and dp was terrified and didnt feel he could help on is own, then scrubbed our flat clean and bulk bought us essentials like washing powder and food before they had to leave.
they also did at least 6 trips ferrying dp to and from the hospitral while me and tot were in.
does it sem like women and their m.i.l's always have problems whereas men don't?

Blu · 24/01/2006 16:25

Mine:
Cut our lawn with kitchen scissors, despite the fact we have a Flymo
Looked at holiday pics and said 'oh Blu, you look so ugly in that one'
Said of one of her neices 'appearance is everything to her, She wouldn't wear unironed trousers. Not like Blu' (my cropped linen summer trousers)
Wiped DS's bottom with Parazone Toilet cleaning wipes.
Used 2l of cooking oil in less than 2 weeks. As an ingredient, not for deep frying, you understand.

Blu · 24/01/2006 16:32

Oh, and:
Surreptitiously dug up plants from every botanical garden / stately home we visitied
INCLUDING from a greenhouse which had notices saying biological warfare was being used to combat a perniscious parasite that the vines had. This did not deter her, and I had to physically restrain her from taking infectous cuttings back to the agriculture-dependent island she lives on!
Failed to mention to DP that she was Sickle Cell trait positive, and therefore so might DP, and DS be - despite DS being given a series of aneasthetics. (she is not of the top racial group for sickle cell trait, and DS had not been tested...). And this, even though she is a trained nurse.

heavenis · 24/01/2006 16:46

My MIl is good.
She takes ds2 one day aweek and has him sleep over.
Will have ds1 for a full weekend.
Took me shopping at christmas while FIL looked after ds2.
And many other things.

Blandmum · 24/01/2006 16:53

My MIL is utterly fab and I love her to bits.

She is totaly ecentric, can buy crap gifts, but then plays a blinder and gives you a victorian diamond broach.

She came to look after the kids when I was back at work abd they had an extra week of holiday. Not only that but she arrived with a bottle of gin for me, and 12 bottles of wine for us to share.

She tells me I am the daughter she never had.

How can you not love a woman like that!

Blu · 24/01/2006 16:54

I am still giggling about Nells MIL praying in the garden, at risk of falling in pond!

eemie · 24/01/2006 17:18

Nell12 she sounds fabulously selfish. Wish I had 2 sil's to moan with. Lol at 'refusing to eat our cooking' - I stopped cooking for mine after the following:-

eemie - would you like some soup?
MIL - what kind?
eemie - mixed vegetable.
MIL yech, scrub the soup.

batters · 25/01/2006 08:41

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cull · 25/01/2006 15:34

My MIL and I have always gotten on quite well. I would consider her a friend even. But since DS was born things are just...different. I feel really tense around her and she makes comments that make me want to scream.
I don't know if I'm being over sensitive or what.
She's always been the type of person who would disagree with you whatever you said (the sky is blue 'no it's more aqua') but when she does it about my ds I can't deal! Finally had to say something (me - 'i think ds is hungry' her - 'no he's not') I just looked at her and said 'why are you always trying to stop me from feeding my son?'
The other night he was yelling which means he's either tired or hungry when i said as much she said no he's only talking. like I don't spend 24/7 with the kid and don't know!! I took him from her and fed him then he spit up a bit when i burped him - which he does just about every time and she goes 'see? he wasn't hungry he's spitting it all up again...'
aarrrggggg...