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Do I let him go without me?

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Flamesparrow · 16/01/2006 15:05

Dh is gonna be piping up soon that his mates are planning to see Underworld 2 over the weekend (I know because they were discussing it last week, and they generally all want to go the first Friday...).

I know we can't get a babysitter for Friday or Saturday, which means that I can't go too.

I want to see the film - enjoyed the first one, and fancy the second one.

If he goes without me, he'll say we can get it on dvd, and then we never will because he'll never fancy it when I suggest it, and I don't like sitting watching films alone

Do I say that I want to go too, and ask if he'll wait and go with me (bearing in mind I'm 34 1/2 weeks pregnant, and my mum is very busy right now, so I don't know when we'll be able to go when babysitter & bump allows...), or do I just let him go without me, and forgo the film?

I always feel like the mean possessive wife when I ask him not to go (all but one of the friends are single, and none have children), but I'd like to do things with him too

What do you think....?

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Flamesparrow · 16/01/2006 15:08

Oh, he's already not going out to play on Wednesday (his normal night) because I booked him to sort out baby stuff.

(His child, so I don't think its too much to ask )

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NomDePlume · 16/01/2006 15:29

I'd say he can go and see the film with his mates on the condition that he also goes to see it with you at some point.

beansprout · 16/01/2006 15:38

As you are going to be in the land-of-the-newborn soon enough and the last few weeks of being pregnant aren't exactly a ball, I think it would be nice if he just gave you the support of seeing the film. His mates will manage without him but you should be first in his queue at the moment.

CountessDracula · 16/01/2006 15:41

Sorry I think it's only a film, surely if you wanted to see it that badly you could get it out on dvd one Wednesday when he is out playing.....

Socci · 16/01/2006 15:56

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madmarchhare · 16/01/2006 15:59

When I saw thread title I assumed it was going to at least involve an overnight stay. How longs a film? I shocked that its an issue tbh.

VeniVidiVickiQV · 16/01/2006 15:59

I agree CD.

Altough, can you not jump in first and ask him to take you to see it, instead of waiting for him to ask to go with his mates for you to say "well actually......"??

madmarchhare · 16/01/2006 16:00

I'm shocked

soapbox · 16/01/2006 16:01

I'd definitely let him go and see the film with his mates.

I'd find another friend to go with another night, or go on my own if I wanted to see it enough!

Hadalifeonce · 16/01/2006 16:02

Do you not have a friend who would be interested in going with you? then plan your night out and he can stay in.

CountessDracula · 16/01/2006 16:04

Yes good idea

Honestly you have to be able to do things apart too or it's not healthy, at least he is going to a film and not out getting hammered!

Rhubarb · 16/01/2006 16:04

I agree with most of the posts here, I would let him go (every now and then we need a bit of time with our friends, apart from our spouses) and when you do have a babysitter I would suggest he organise a meal for you both.

You could see the film with a friend as suggested.

magnolia1 · 16/01/2006 16:07

Blimey I have to physically force my dh to go out without me

Let him go, it's a film, not a drunken night out with the lads

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Flamesparrow · 16/01/2006 16:47

I think we can safely say that I am tired, hormonal and clingy... reading this back it seems a really bizarre thing for me to be worrying about!!!!

Thanks for all the sane balanced answers

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moondog · 16/01/2006 16:54

Why don't you go on your own?
Enjoy the peace while it lasts girl!

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