Am i being selfish?

[LoveMyGirls]

sometimes i wish that just for a day or a weekend or something i could switch off all of my responsibilities and just be me, not mum or girlfriend or daughter etc i feel selfish for saying it and would never be without my children or family but id just like to not have to worry about anyone but myself like i did when i was 16. i think a big part of this is because i had my dd1 at 17 and i have just had my dd2 so its bringing back some old feelings of missing my freedom i guess. just wondered if its just me or if there are other people out there that sometimes feel the same but are generally happy with their life

Oh LMG this is Very Very Normal!!! And you are not alone! (Even if there are some strange peeps who pop into this thread to announce that they NEVER want to be away from their little ones for even 5 minutes.. If this thread runs on, it will happen.. you mark my words... [)

The best thing to do is compromise and find away to get small pockets of quality ME time. The thing is.. you probably didn't appreciate all that long extended 'me time' when you were 16.. but you will SO appreciate it now that ANY 'time off' will feel like bliss.

SJ x

Sounds entirely normal to me, especially as you had your first child at a relatively young age. What's to like about the constant round of washing, cleaning, washing up, nappy changing, tidying, ironing etc etc etc!! Most of the time I don't mind but I never love that stuff. Same as getting up in the night etc etc. There are lots of aspects of childcare that are hard. I think you would be mad not to want a day off sometimes. Doesn't mean you don't love your family, just means you are normal so please don't give yourself a hard time!

I would love to have an afternoon nap on a Saturday afternoon like I used to pre-children. Sometimes I wouldn't get dressed all day. I used to wake up from the nap and watch brookside and then get ready to go out with friends again, music turned up, long soak in the bath. Seems like a life time away

Don't feel guilty for a second - you are perfectly normal!

Aahhhh, yes, omnibus of Brooky (when it was any good) and then off out on a Saturday night!!!

Oh yes, I would love once in a while to be that reckless teenager again without a care in the world. Doing what I want to do, and not having to consider others all the time. Yes you're certainly not the only one

Ah they are but pipe drems... [wistful sigh]

I have just stolen an hour to do an exercise video in the living room, surrounded by my warring children.. (the younger ones complaining that they wanted Nick Junior on.. the 13 y/o pretending not to be transfixed by the heaving bosoms on the screen.. it was the Jordan workout!!).

I ended up doing push ups with my 5 year old ON MY BACK!!! Jordan and her ultra fit sidekick have got nothing on ME!! No wonder I feel as if I am about to DIE!!!!!!

SJ x

i can barely remember having my own life without having to think of my dd1 i think my parents were just starting to let me have freedom so i probably had about 5/6months. im luckier than most because i have great family support so i can go out sometimes but its not the same cause i have no energy to actually enjoy it by the time ive packed the kids stuff etc and then i think about picking them up the next day and i dont want to be too hungover so i dont drink much. my dp parents are taking dd1 to greece in the summer for two weeks and my mum said she'll have dd2 for a weekend so we can get away for a few days so i do get some time off which im aware is more than alot of people so i shouldnt be moaning!