Im broody but husband is NOT

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Ireally want another baby,i already have 2DD's,they are 8&10,but my husband is most reluctant.Any ideas on changing his mind? or mine for that matter!

Have you asked him why he doesnt want another? Maybe if its a reason that can be solved he wouldnt mind to much, if its not then you have to sit down and figure a way to make you both happy. sorry not much use i know. Hope itworks out for you.

He says he is too old (44) and that babies are expensive. Its a rubbish excuse, mind you it would be difficult to even try for a baby as he is always on tour and his visits home seem to coincide with my roaring PMT.
iM HOPING MY BROODINESS WILL PASS SOON,BUT I BEEN LIKE THIS FOR A YEAR NOW.iALWAYS THOUGHT I WOULD HAVE 3 KIDS BY THE TIME I WAS 35 AND IM THAT AGE NOW. EVERYONE SAYS AFTER 35 ITS MUCH HARDER.

Does he know that you are really serious, not just broody, and that having three children is something definite that you really want? Maybe if you were really clear he would have to search his soul and come up with a definite "yes" or "no". I've known couples go on for years just wheedling at each other without with one not knowing that the other was really becoming unhappy.

I've been going through this broody phase myself. I'm 34 and dh is slightly younger than me. He says he definitely wants no more. Some of his resaons are reasonable ones but he also says that he wnats to get his life back now. He doesn't want the waking through the night every couple of hours etc etc etc.
I'm trying to see things through his eyes and am trying to look forward to the quality time and all the things him and I can do together in the future.

I'm 37 and DH is 42 this year, we've got twin DS's 7yo and he has a DD who is 11.
I've wanted another child since our DS's were 6 months old but 6.5 years later and I still haven't been able to change his mind
His reasons are the same as your DH's,also having the boys was very hard when they were younger,it took alot out of us and he says he couldn't go through all that again.Even when I point out that one would be easier than two babies.

I've just had to learn to accept it but the feeling really doesn't go away,if anything it gets worse as the boys get older. I just know it will be a life long regret
However,we have a very happy marriage and all our children get on very well together,we see stepDD every week and I would like to think our family are very close.I choose not to disrupt all this,just because of something only I want.
I'm hopeing that with time it will prove to be the best choice,but it still makes me very,very, sad.

No advise really, if you love your DH you'll just have to accept it

Does your DH know that it will be a life long regret for you? I'm not being critical, and I agree that if you love your dh that must come first. I just sympathise - I am lucky enough that my dh would never stop me from having another baby, even if he wasn't as keen as me. If he really was against it, and I really was desperate to go for it, it would tear me apart.

Hi All,well there has been new development!after a long discussion(alright a blazing row then)dh agreed to try for another babyIt does come with certain conditions,he only willing to try until he turns 45(end of april)so am trying to beat the clock,he also going to be on tour in USA til april,i do believe he only agreed to try for baby cos he hardly around but hooray he home for 4 days in feb and7 in March during my fertile period no less.So you never know

Well its great you got a chance to try again. Are you ok with the conditions he's set though? I dont meAan to be a downer but are yougoing to be really upset if you dont fall by april and he says enoughs enough? Anyway i hope you get your baby

Hi Charlee,i think i can cope with the conditions,just hope it happens quick,but am a lot older now so who knows.Im hoping that if it takes longer than he wants that i might be able to talk him into keep trying...failing that will just have to get him drunk