girl's girl? boy's girl? woman's woman? man's lady? and variations thereof

[fancyhat]

I'm bored and meant to be working. was lying in bed the other night pondering who my closest friends were, and composing hypothetical mn posts (as you do) on the subject. Just wondered if people divide up into those whose closest friends are all girls; those who like the company of men; those who are one of the lads etc etc. At school I was never really one of the girls, (even though I went to a girl's school!) and definitely wasn't at university. and the ex-colleagues I have staying in touch with are men. I have 3 very close girl-friends (one from school, one from university, and one from work) whom I adore, and now I'm older I do enjoy the company of women a lot more than I used to. But men are very comforting and cuddly. why?

My closest friends are two girls and 2 males(every girl should have at least gay male friend, I have 2). However, three are relatively new and my oldest mate (friends for 22 years) is female.

However, very much feel at home in male company- much more one of the lads than girls I think. Don't know why, but always been the case.

I have one good male friend (but don't tell dh I'm still in contact with him!) I have my suspicions that he is gay but I have a lot more female friends - when I was in my teens I was very much a tomboy hanging around with the lads though

am hesitating to say snap Hausfrau is case you are joking
but SNAP
gay men
or men who could pass for gay (Just Gay Enough)
and bitchy women are my real friends
never really done girly girlfriends
not great at female solidarity
manly men just seem to get on my tits tbh

I have a very close male friend who's not gay. but he is only 5 foot 4. I have dinner every now and then with a male ex-colleague who I kind of think is asexual tbh. He's got a bit of the bitch in him and is very into design and beautiful things but I don't think he's gay. But I've never known him have a girlfriend. I asked him once and he said he'd had a big thing (oo-eer) and it didn't work out and that he's just not interested enough to settle for any sort of compromise. Lived with 4 blokes when I was a student and loved it. they were my surrogate family and I felt incredibly secure in that household. there's something rather nice about being the only girl.

dh doesn't mind me dining with my asexual ex colleague or my 5 foot 4-er. I think that's a non-threatening thing too (but god they'd both hit me if they heard me say that...)

fancyhat (hatstand??) I am loving the fact that a guy is five foot four is somehow equivalent to being efffectively gay
yes Hausfrau, am effectively a gay man myself. also fancy men who are ahem in touch with their feminine side
dh for example used to be my shopping and dancing partner when we were at college. liked nothing better than to sit outside changing rooms and go "oh no dear not with those legs..." etc
see? JGE

My closest friend is spacedonkey, and although i do have other female friends, noone will be as close as her and i. Apart from her and a couple of others i usually prefer the company of men.

yes dh is very unsuspicious of my male friends too
he says things like "well I don't really think of X (artistic type) as a MAN tbh..."
(sneaky work on behalf of these JGE types I think)
Q though - if we are all keen on male company WHY ARE WE ON HERE ALL THE TIME??

ime unless the man is gay there is always a sexual undertone between men and women as friends to some extent (although admittedly with some it's to a very very tiny extent!)

the old When Harry Met Sally thing ...

yes, with some it's a 5 foot four extent . Harpsichordcarrier (yes tis hatstand) I'm not sure my friend would like it. he'd be GUTTED. But perhaps I could make up for it by admitting (after a 17-year friendship) that I do actually fancy him a wee bit. He's invited me to Paris for a w/e. Don;t think I should go.

hatstand - ah the draw of the short man! don't get me started

I posted some GREAT name sugeestions for you
I see you have taken NONE of them

great name suggestions? where?

LOL! Thought it was just me

Always had gay mates

Two of my exboyfriends now gay (I'm that great no other female would do )

Everyone thought Dh was gay where we worked when I met him. Obviously not, very effemintae in the gestures though.

dos taht mean I;ve featured on a thread without knowing it? blimey that makes me as good as famous

here you are hatstand
you asked for suggestions and then you were GONE

ooooo like this one

Never had girly girl friends. Always had mostly male friends in my younger days.

so does that mean that men and women can never really be true friends - that at least one if not both entertain thoughts of getting in the sack? IME when I was younger and single there was often a sexual element in male-female friendships, but now that most people I know are married, not anymore. Or maybe I am just naive AND THEY ALL FANCY ME

I have a few good male friends, met through work or hobbies (both the work I used to do and my hobbies are almost predominantly male so by default very hard to make friends with women as there were/are so few!) DH is jealous of one, the one who is single, and who has become quite close. I have held my ground as I didn't think it was fair to make me cut contact when the relationship is really an honest friendship. We have had some discussions though...

I love girls' company though. Guys are great fun but women are so much more nurturing, sharing and supportive. As demonstrated by MN.