Do you ever feel like giving up?

[deaddennis]

Just saying b*llocks to everything and not bothering anymore? I am so close to this at the moment, the relentlessness of it all is really getting me down.

deaddennis - yes I feel like that quite a lot at the mo. I reached the conclusion hte other day that it doesn't matter what i do all day long - the only thing that gets noticed is whether there is food on the table. Without a single thank you

expat, in answer to your query.Yes for a couple of days, maybe even 10 days. But permanently - NO!

But I would love a few days BC type lifestyle

I think you have to priotise. What is more important, a clean house or a happy you and kids? Is there anyway you could afford a cleaner? If not, then I would limit what I do. I'll bet your house is spick and span most of the time and you go over the top in trying to keep in this way, is that your way of keeping in control? Would it really matter if the hoovering didn't get done for a day? Would the world fall apart if the bath wasn't cleaned for a couple of weeks? Personally I feel very uncomfortable going into a house that is extremely clean, I hate having to take my shoes off, it makes me feel uneasy and I never know where to put my cup of tea, if they give me a biscuit I have a mini-panic attack trying not to get crumbs on the floor! Whereas you can have a clean but untidy house that is welcoming and homely and actually looks lived in. In these houses I feel that I can relax and chill out.

Hope some/any of this helps. And don't forget that music is brilliant for lifting a mood!

Rhubarb, I totally agree, when I go to a super clean house it makes me feel sorry for the person keeping it like that. We live in a clean but muddly house, and its suit us just fine, I've got better things to do and only do the mininum required to keep us all ticking along.

Without a doubt I feel like this alot I often look at my DP (use that termy loosely) sitting on the sofa with remote in his hand whilst I sort out the washing, get the clothes ready for the next day etc etc etc etc and wonder how I ended up being such a drudge some days I cant bear it and want to run away although I know I could not live without my kids but other days the mundaneness of it all comforts me - is that weird - but deaddennis I think every mother feels that way - big hugs

When I hear posts like this Lulu, I often think, why don't you just take the remote off him, stamp on it and then demand that he either shifts his lazy arse into helping you or he finds another slave. Since when did your role of wife transmogrify into another mother for your dh? Seriously, the only reason men behave like this is because they are allowed to. It's takes a bit of hard work on your part to get them to change, but for the long term benefits it really is worth it!