I'm such a terrible mum because....

[CKMUM]

I am still breastfeeding
I cuddle my children a lot
I feed my youngest on my lap instead of highchair
I let them sleep in my bed
I don't give my 10 month old semi-skimmed milk or apple juice

I have been saying for ages what a bad mum I was but I didn't think any of these were too terrible, but I'm sick of health visitors, sure start workers, doctors etc commenting negatively when they hear about me doing these things. I know I have been to them a lot for support but why does their advice have to be stop breastfeeding, make them sleep on their own etc

None of those sound remotely bad !

The answer is:

NEVER attend health visitor clinics

I am doing this with my second baby and my self-esteem has SOARED!

Shame on you!

Drop those kids now and get a full time job and send them to after school clubs and spend a few hours of the weekend with them!

Buy them lots of expensive toys and take them on holidays to make up for it!

you sound a fantastic mum to me

who on earth would recommend cuddling children less?? can't have to many imo

aw take no notice, you sound like a lovely mummy! Surely they can offer other suggestions to whatever problems you are having? None of the above seem unusal or wrong to me!

Ignore Them!!

"mummy knows best" Is the best motto in world and so true. I intend to use this forver as does my mum lol

I stopped seeing my health visitor when DD2 was 3 weeks old as she wound me up so much I ended up actually telling her "you don't have a clue and I no longer require your services"

I've said it before and I daresay I'll say it again, but some HVs need a smack. Any HV who would tell you that breastfeeding, cuddling and not giving apple juice are bad things hasn't got a clue what she's on about, and as for the rest they're personal choices that only a child's parents can make.

I never, ever took dd to the baby clinic (although the HV insisted on coming out to see me for a while) and I would seriously recommend it.

cannot stand HVs.

Also Sure Start people. One came to see me once and was astounded that I worked, let alone full-time.

Then read my antenatal notes when she'd gone and saw she'd written that I didn't need benifit advice. She sure as shit needed spelling lessons though.

Take no notice. At all.

Don't listen to health visitors, they contradict each other, they make you feel terrible and it does not help and some of there advise is completely subjective and can't be applied to all children in all circumstances. If I have a second baby I will be keeping clear of health professionals & HV they are death to self esteem. My son stopped needing me to lie with him to go to sleep after 6 years it took 3 nights and it happened on my terms no evil sleep clinic. I ignored advise about night time nappies, that told me he would go dry on his own and i was not to wake him up to wee as that would not help him. I waited 6 years he did not do it on his own...Then once I broke the HV rules, took away the nappies and woke ds up to wee several times a night and hey presto that worked!!!he is dry at night, that is where listening to them got me, should have done my own thing years ago.