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Fed Up can't sleep

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UCM · 03/01/2006 04:26

I am really really stunned at something someone has done to me. I absolutely can't believe it. It's silly me posting on here about it but it goes along the line of :-

A person tried to get me the sack

They are not a colleague

It was embarrassing

This man is going out with my sister.

My DH (bless him has taken the day off today as he knew I was going to be up all night stressing)

This is why (just for once I am not pissed)I am still up.

What has happened has made me think that I cannot have any contact with my S as her p has done something so unforgivable. Do I tell my Father? He will be very annoyed with this situation? I could have lost a career that I have had for 10 years.

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veuveclicquot · 03/01/2006 04:45

OMG UCM. What happened? Was it something spiteful or could he have a legitimate reason (ie he's the MD or something). Why on earth would he want to get you fired if it was spiteful?

Does your sister know? What a horrible situation to be in.

I would be absolutely fuming, no wonder you can't sleep.

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UCM · 03/01/2006 05:19

Cheers for asking, I am sitting here fuming, I have now decided to take the day off so we can go and confront this pair of prats!!!One of the provisos will be Sis if you are staying, then ta ta as I don't want you in my life.

Without revealing who I am, I can't say an awful lot, (hey I am not someone famous) but this is absolute crap (have jsut started crying, OMG, it's just such a silly thing)

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UCM · 03/01/2006 05:23

What happened was extremely embarrassing, but the people involved had known me for years and for a minute I thought I had a stalker, but after a few telephone calls narrowed it down to this pratt. I am really worried about how this will look on my record as I am going to take tomorrow off with DH and go and see these people.

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UCM · 03/01/2006 05:28

Just recently I have felt very welcome on MN but I can't quite cross the line and tell you everything as I am reasonably private most of the time. BUT this has absolutely stunned me.

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veuveclicquot · 03/01/2006 05:30

It's not silly to be so upset. There is nothing worse than having somebody bad-mouth you at work if you haven't done anything wrong. I've fumed for days about much more minor offences.

I once worked with a guy who was much older than me and took a completely irrational dislike to me the first time we met (wouldn't shake my hand or look at me when introduced. Completely barking). He badmouthed me consistently to my director. I break out into a furious sweat whenever I think about it, and it was nearly 6 years ago. I still haven't worked out what I could possibly have done to make him hate me so much at first sight. Oooh. I can feel a seethe coming on again.

Let us know the outcome of your meeting if you can. Confronting bullies is great if you've got the guts. I'm dying to hear how he is going to justify his actions.

Gracesmum · 04/01/2006 04:24

UCM so sorry to hear about your situation, hope your sister comes thru for you. nothing worse than family betraying you. shame you feel you cant say more about it cos MN is great place for advice and empathy IMO. hope you get it sorted honey, sending you HUGS

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UCM · 05/01/2006 02:29

Well so far they have turned their mobiles off and are not answering my calls. My nephew phoned his mum yesterday and they are staying with friends for a couple of days. So it looks like she is going to stay with him.

I have to keep repeating 'what goes around comes around' at the moment. I am still very very angry

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UCM · 05/01/2006 02:31

Sorry, thank you for your posts.

It wasn't a simple case of bad mouthing. This pratt tried to get me the sack. The worst thing is he knows I have a family, so he would have made my son & husband suffer too. It's galling

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UCM · 05/01/2006 02:37

Sorry to keep posting, but I want to answer your questions.

I was not happy when he started seeing my sister (I introduced them), she had just come out of the relationship from hell and he is the son of DH oldest friend. So I know his history, it's salubrious shall we say. He will never ever be able to see his children ever again because of DV etc. So when S started with this I told her not to bother. He went mad and accused me of messing with his life and what did I know etc.

I think what I have posted is enough. The man has held a grudge for 6 months and done his damndest. It didnt' work but it frightened the life out of me as I didn't know who it was. I have not really been communicating with S apart from the Happy Xmas call etc and that's all there is really. Well at least she knows that he is a wanker now. It's her choice.

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UCM · 05/01/2006 02:39

We didn't go to see them. It would have been pointless and probably ended up with me in trouble. DH calmed me down. I am calm now. There are a lot worse things happening in the world. My family are ok and that's what counts. I guess I have grown up

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Gracesmum · 05/01/2006 04:20

glad to hear you have the support of your DH thats important. obviously this guy is a selfish tosser who is only out for himself. your sis will see this eventually, and i suspect she already does and thats probably why she cant speak to you cos she may have to realise shes made a mistake.

edam · 05/01/2006 06:13

God, that's terrible. Does he have an imagined grudge against you? Was he paying off a score? You have every right to be furious and to fill your sister in on this tosser. If she doesn't act to demonstrate her support for you, then sadly it looks as if you will have to cut her out, for some time at least.

mummytosteven · 05/01/2006 08:41

Sorry you have been through this UCM. A colleague once tried to get me into trouble at work for no apparent reason. It's unpleasant when you feel people are out to get you for no reason, particularly if that mindset is alien to you!

I wonder if this whole thing might be part of this bloke's agenda to try and alienate your sis from your family so he can have greater control over her (given he has a previous history of DV).

niccick · 05/01/2006 09:43

Do you have a Equal opportunity officer that you could speak to. i am not sure how things work over there but here (australia) if someone did something like that they could get in a lot of trouble if you made a complaint. He has no right to treat you like that at all. Talk to someone about it at work don't let him get away with it.

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UCM · 05/01/2006 10:44

This twat is not a colleague, he is my S bf. This was totally malicious. Luckily for me, my company has been supportive and wasn't taken in for one minutes. The police are involved.

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expatinscotland · 05/01/2006 10:49

i'd not contact my sister at all if you're sure she knows what her partner did.

i'd wait for her to contact me and then inform her that due to police involvement, you can't have a relationship for now.

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UCM · 05/01/2006 19:33

Expat, that is exactly what I intend to do and I do know 1000% that this dickhead is behind it. I just can't believe it. I haven't heard from him for over 6 months and now this. It's beyond diabolical.

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