Is there anyone who wouldn't consider a mixed race relationship?

[deaddennis]

I feel awful asking this and I really hope that I don't come across as rascist, because I really am not but I just wanted your opinion.

I have been looking at a dating site and I have been contacted by several men from a different race than me. I feel wierd about the thought of a mixed race relationship, am I the only one like this? I'm assuming that it is because I have never lived in a multi racial area and I have never had the opportunity to mix with people from different races. Do I sound rascist? Please don't think I am, I feel a bit upset with myself about this and I'm not sure why.

Why does it feel weird?

I don't know. Just because it isn't anything I've had any experience of I suppose.

Hope you find peace. Can honestly say race, religion, etc. never stopped me from going on a date w/someone. I mean, it's just a date, after all, not exactly a relationship.

as a teenager "experimenting" (as my mum would put it!) i went out with quite a few different race boys. my mum always said that eventually cultural differences would out, especially if you had children. I think it depends on the individuals involved. I have friends who are great examples of multi racial families and friends who have tried and failed to make it work.

It wouldn't matter to me. My first husband was Indian and although it didn't work out if had absolutely nothing to do with that.

I know expat, I'm probably jumping the gun a bit here, I just thought I'd try and get to the bottom of my problem, if I have one.

Do you think I have a problem?

But surely anyone you meet is different and not something you've experienced before?

I think your reaction is normal. And it's very sensible to try to understand your reaction, and work out why you feel this way.

If you've not mixed much with people of different races, why not take this opportunity, to get to know people of other races?

No, I don't think you have a problem w/race. BUT, if you're looking into a dating site, it might be a good idea to view it in a very relaxed and casual manner, like a 'let's just have fun w/this' sort of thing rather than a date = relationship scenario every time.

I always felt a bit like that and I was a bit embarrassed and then I had a (v.short) relationship with someone who was black and that completely changed my thoughts. I think when it comes to it, it doesn't really matter. Like I say, I always thought it might matter to me but it didn't at all. Does that make any sense

Thanks. Expat, I'm just browsing at the moment, I'm ignoring men who seem keen to meet, can't see myself being able to manage that just yet. I just thought that maybe I should have a look at what is out there, so to speak, other people don't seem to have a problem with getting on with their life, but mine seems to have ground to a complete halt.

Thanks Smurf, that helps.