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advice about neighbours anyone ? sorry long but would appreciate :)

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thriftychic · 03/11/2011 23:05

I ve lived in my house 18 years now and always got along with the neighbours , never had a spot of trouble with anyone .
2 years ago i got some new next door neighbours . someone who knows of them told me just before they moved in that they were not likely to be the nicest of neighbours but i decided not to judge and myself and my partner went and introduced ourselves and told them when bin day was etc etc .

not long after, they had pulled up in the car and there was smoke billowing out of it . the childs booster seat had been on fire and i watched as they launched it still smoking from the car into the grassy / tree area where the children all play.
i politely asked if they could retrieve it as we had recently made an effort to clean our street up. they didnt like that at all.

next , i can hear the woman constantly shouting at the children , things like 'fuck off you little bastard' and im telling you i'll twat you' most days this seemed to be the case. the children were 2 and 8.

one day my 10 year old was out the back looking for twigs and sticks when they both came out and shouted at him that he better not be making a fuckin mess etc
i went and knocked on the back gate and didnt get to say anything much as she flung it open and hurled abuse at me.

i decided i would be best to just completely ignore them as they seemed a bit loony to me.

trouble is though that since then she has bad mouthed me at the school gate to other mums , whilst i am stood there trying not to react. she has shouted at my son saying hes looked in her window etc . I had been going to that school 10 years and one of the teaching assistants actually said that she had been aggressive towards her and a teacher also. the head said he could ban her from school premises but i didnt go with that for the sake of her children.

she has walked behind me loads of times saying to her friend that she would hit me and also said that to my partner.
she shouts insults from her house evrytime i walk passed.
i have tried to talk to her calmly , i would prefer we just ignored each other, but she will never talk face to face. she opens the door screeches and then goes back in.

the icing on the cake has been tonight . my son has been having drumming lessons and we bought him an electric kit. its in a big shed in the backyard. I spoke to my neighbour on the other side (its a terraced) and said that if at any time it was too loud or a bother to let me know and he wouldnt play. she has assured me that its not very loud and its fine.

i would gladly have done the same if the irate neighbour were to ask like a normal person for him to stop . but no, her husband came out into his yard tonight and shouted at my son that he better shut the fuck up or he'd batter him and then she shouted at me that she was going to twat me and that i was a slut.
i told her that if she had spoken in a civil manner all would be fine but she couldnt hear me as she was shouting.
I never let him play passed 7:30pm and tbh he doesnt play that often as hes at the karate club four nights a week.

she was even threatening to ring dominoes pizza last week as the delivery driver had music on too loudly !
she has shouted abuse at the woman opposite once before and her frriend went and threatened to beat up the young lad across the road who had thrown a snowball at her window .
I feel really stressed about it all and fed up that im now watching my back when i go out. Im also not very well at the moment and i really dont need this.
what should i do ? any advice ?
they wont answer the door btw when we knock.

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belledechocchipcookie · 03/11/2011 23:14

Is there a local policeman/woman that you can have a chat to? Is her house rented? Can you speak to the housing association/council? It's antisocial behaviour and you don't have to live like this. Keep a record of all of her outbursts and speak to the police/council. They sound like a nightmare Sad

thriftychic · 03/11/2011 23:28

unfortunately they have bought :(
i hate confrontation but have knocked on her door last week after she shouted at me , heart pounding , and she wouldnt answer it.
maybe i will speak to the police . my son walks home from school on his own now hes gone to high school and i dont want her giving him grief again.

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thriftychic · 03/11/2011 23:29

and thanks for replying , i know it was a long one !

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belledechocchipcookie · 04/11/2011 08:03

It's ok, it must be a nightmare for you. Legally, threatening violence against someone can be classed as assault (iirc). Keep a log of times, dates and issues and call the police if she threatens you or your family again. Just remember that you have to disclose any problems with your neighbours if you want to sell and are asked. :(

3littlefrogs · 04/11/2011 08:08

Log every single incident and report it to the police. Then it will all be on file as background evidence if anything more serious should occur.

thriftychic · 04/11/2011 09:17

thanks , wish i had been logging it from the start . have phoned the police and they are going to call back and arrange a time they can come and see us.

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Methe · 04/11/2011 09:22

They sounds absolutely hideous :(

Keeping a log of it is your best idea. record absolutely everything. If you report them to the police for shouting abuse at you I think they could probably be done for a public order offence and maybe harassment if it is ongoing.

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