Anynes dh been away for a month and missed xmas, childs birthday etc?

[hercules]

Cant believe I am solely responsible for 2 kids now for a month.

I really feel for those who have to do it all the time.

I've missed any previous posts about this, hercules, is this the first time your dp has had to go away? I imagine it is quite daunting and I personally would struggle, to say the least. Have you got any help at all? How old are your children?

He went away unexecpectly on xmas morning and wont be back for at least a month. I have loads of help but he's only been away for a week at the most before so it will be a new experience for me.

Not Christmas,but I am apart from my dh for up to 7 weeksat a time,and he has only been here for one of dd's (she is 5)birthdays.
He actually missed ds's birth.

I accept it now. It's not easy but this is how we have lived for 5 years,and if we want to enjoy the same standard of living,we will continue to do so for the foreseeable future.

I feel permanently on duty.Tell him that when i hear his key in the door I emit an audible sigh and feel a weight instantly lifted from my shoulders.

What does he do H??

Getting to know that being on duty feeling already.

Oh blimey, I am sorry to hear that. Whenever I have an awful day, like you I feel for those who are on their own all the time. Puts it in perspective, doesn't it?

Can you speak to him while he's away?

It' not work but a rather nasty bereavement in his close family.

Cant speak to him every day but I shouldnt moan as i gets lots of help from my mum.

Doesnt help that ds has been ill since he left.

although the house is jam packed with chocolate....

Oh herc - poor you - no advice or help, just sympathy. Must be something awful if he has to be away so long. Any friends for support?

and wine

[phew] sorry about the bereavement but I thought maybe he was in prison

I don't think having your mum around is the same, though. You're perfectly right to have a moan.

i'm so sorry hercules. peter has missed dd2 birthday, xmas, his 3 brothers and his dads birthday and we arent pinning much hope on him being home for dd3 1st birthday in february. its very hard.

I really shouldnt moan, I know.

I am solely responsible for ensuring they eat fruit everyday!

no, moan away. its awful having to do it all even with support. i feel like screamiong most days.

My dh worked away for first 8yrs of us being together. Firstly in the navy and then with a job. In 2001 he was away for chrismas and dd's 3rd birthday and I was pregnant with my ds. He left 2 weeks after we moved 160 miles away from my family. All I can say is that it is hard But for me it was hardest for about the first week or so, then I would get used to it and I was in my own routine and then i used to get excited in the week before he came home. I found it does get easier... HTH

Yep, my dh. He's been away since mid-Nov and missed all dd's end of term stuff and of course Xmas. But he's due home tomorrow snow permitting.

We're moving to W Africa in January and he's going to be leaving us alone there almost immediately - eek!