2 questions arising from staying with relatives

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I, dh and 7.5 month old ds are staying with BIL and family at the moment.
First, is it OK for him to play and crawl where cats (they've got 3) have walked? (our household is pet-free).
Second, we're baby-led-weaning ds, up till now he's only had (plain) parsnip, carrot and apple. SIL made me fried potato and scrambled eggs for lunch, which she did in the same pan, albeit different halves. She really put me under pressure to give ds a couple of little pieces of potato, and I did, although I didn't feel happy about it at all. The potato was fried in vegetable oil from cold leftover potatoes. I took some where I couldn't see any egg on it, but could any egg traces trigger allergies in ds (I have asthma and dh has a weird very occasional rash on his hands)? Or could he get food poisoning from the egg or the potatoes? (I like my scrambled eggs very well cooked, but am still worried). Am a bit p**sed off at myself for having 'given in'. SIL is lovely, but very sort of bright and breezy, convinced she knows better, and kind of sweeps you along.

I think it's important that you do what you want to do with your children. I have a similar sister-in-law e.g. "are you still b/f?" "yes" "oh blimey, you must be desperate to stop, just don't give in to him".

You have good reason to be cautious and that's perfectly ok. I dealt with it by just doing ds's food in a "I really don't expect you to do all this as well" type way. I knew they were making comments but I didn't care!

As for the cats, my mum has some. They hoover before we get there and I don't worry about it beyond that. The biggest problem is that I have a terrible allergy but that's another story. Ds has tried to catch them many times but hasn't suceeded yet, so them actually playing together is not an issue!

I wouldn't worry about the cats at all but the pushiness on giving baby a taste of whatever she's cooked would annoy me hugely -- none of her beeswax, and all that.

Yep i'm with Beansprout. I'm much more forceful with dd2 and my family know not to push me. You do things my way with my baby!

Having said that, i think we've all caved in at some point and felt guilty for 'giving in'. Just see the the best in your sil and forget it+

My DS was actually spotted eating from the cats bowl when he was first crawling! UGH!
No ill effects from that, so I think you are safe with yours!
As for SIL, I agree with the others

I wouldn't worry too much .. I also found with DD who did have an egg allergy that it came up immediately (within 5 minutes at the most) .. so knew to avoid it ..if there's been no reaction I would try not to worry at all

Thanks.
How does one learn this sort of assertiveness (which I actually thought I had! But it's so difficult in the situation and I wimped out).
Her mother is exactly the same - absolutely certain of being right, but really lovely with it.