Do I still invite MIL?

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I am really cheesed off. My dh works on an oil rig and has been out there since 15th December.
I went to my mums christmas day with my 2 dss and it was nice, but we normally have dinner at home with MIL and FIL and dh does the cooking (it is my birthday as well so I get the day off!)
Dh is supposed to be home today so we had decided to invite MIL and FIL to christmas lunch tomorrow and gice DH his presents then. We have champagne ready, the turkey is thawing and the dss are really excited. Trouble is all flights from offshore today look set to be cancelled because of freezing fog and general bad weather, also the same tomorrow.
Do I still invite MIL and FIL tomorrow? The whole point was for dh to be here with them. I am so depressed it will be crap anyway,the last thing I feel is festive, thinking that he is supposed to be here. Bu then again the turkey is thawing so what do i do with that? The dss are 12 and 10 and don't feel very happy and miss dh. Also while cooking dinner I would have to drive in the snow to pick them up as the won't walk in this weather so I would have to cook chauffer and take the dog out first alone plus have 2 moaning dss. I really don't know what to do. Also we have a big family party tonight and I really don't want to go now. Sorry about the moan and I know there are people a lot worse off than me but I just had to have a moan.

Can Mil and Fil d short notice? If so I would just say to them that you want to pospone it until you know for definate dh is on his way home. If it is going to be in the next few days you could cook the turkey and then freeze it??

Is your Mil the type to help in the kitchen? If she is could you just still have them but tell her you are not feeling your best and would appreciate some help with dinner?

MIL and FIL are pretty good and MIL would help. I could cook the turkey and freeze it I suppose, I wasn't sure if you could do that.
Just not sure really wether to put on a happy face or cancel it.
I just phoned FIL and he said we should decide what to do once we know for definite.
I am worried as forecast is bad visibility for tomorrow and there is a backlog of men on the rig. i.e. those who should have got home yesterday and didn't so dh is way down the list.
We are supposed to be going to a party new years eve (with dss) and the whole family is going out for a pub lunch new years day, so if I did postpone xmas dinner it would be at least Monday. I am so undecided and I feel sorry for the kids, thats the thing.

i think i would do it for the kids sake, it doesnt have to be a big affair and it would take your mind of dh perhaps, i know its easier said than done to be all happy n smiling when you dont feel like it.

couldnt FIL take the dog our with the kids while you and mil do the dinner?

meant to say take the dog out

I would have to take dog out as she is so strong and would have FIL over!
I am thinking of maybe cooking dinner for teatime and hoping dh gets home sometime tomorrow.
I have just taken dog on beach though and you cannot see the sea for the fog. The snow is coming down thick and fast now. I am trying to keep a happy face on for the kids. DS2 is sad because he is so close to dh and he found it hard with dh being away for christmas.

So you gonna still invite them?

Even if dh doesn't make it home I am sure the kids will appreciate their grandparents being home and having them round may help take your mind off the waiting??

I think I will invite them. I am trying to make it good for my kids. It is the first time dh has been away for christmas since the dss were born so he has done well.
I was just glad we got through it and was really looking forward to tomorrow and this weekend as he hasn't been home for New Year since 1999.
He hasn't rung me yet as he is probably so fed up. I am now going to the butchers to get some sausages and stuff then later on I will ring MIL.
My sister just rang and we are invited to hers tonight at 7 and my other sisters and their dhs will be there so I don't know if I will feel better of worse but I will put on happy face.

Excellent

Fingers crossed he gets home asap. I can't imagine how hard it is xxxx

Thanks for the support. It is difficult sometimes epecially since the dss were born. The money is good and we have excellent holidays and a nice house which I know helps but money isn't everything and the ds's find it hard even more so now they are older. Anyway, I will try my hardest to enjoy myself and am now nipping out to the shops.