Bonfire Night Blues

[DebL]

I am really p**d off and wondered if there was anything I can do about it.

I live about 50 metres from a 'quiet country pub' in a small place with fields/stables/horses/dogs close by. Bonfire night is always a nightmare as the loud bangs scare my dog and freak out all the horses around.

DH came in tonight after calling in the pub for a pint to be told by the landlord that the pub is having a firework display on bonfire night. The problem is that the fireworks will be set up on the flat roof which is directly opposite our house, and will last for an hour between 6.30 and 7.30pm. DH (never one for an argument) merely said OK to the landlord with no objections! He then said to me 'oh it will be OK, I will take the dog for a walk for an hour'.

I was fuming - what am I supposed to do with DD who is only 16 months old, is tired and grumpy normally at this time and ready for bed??

I want to try to reason with the landlord, but know it will be futile, and wondered if I have any legal rights to stop this - do they need a license for a public display or something? Surely it is dangerous to let off fireworks from a roof??

If anyone has any ideas I would appreciate this very much. I am going to call the local council in the morning, but not sure what else I can do.

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uknowme
I posted my (now trivial)moan before I read your thread.
I can't believe you took the time to reply to my message!
Honey, my thoughts and love are with you, I have never been in your situation, but I am not too interested in sex since DD was born and it is putting a strain on DH and my relationship, but he would never hit me because of it!

I hope you find hope and a brighter future, with or without your partner.
xxxx

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I rang the council this morning - apparently there are health and safety rules for firework displays that the landlord must abide by. They are going to have a little chat with him.

I am having a little chat with him this evening....

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sorry, but I think you are all spoilsports. My ds (2.5) absolutely loves fireworks and my dh sets a few off every evening between diwali and bonfire night for him. If one of my neighbors came and complained because it bothered their dog, I'd be pretty irritated. They are before 8pm and done in a safe way. If they were late at night and accompanied by a crowd of drunks, I'd think their complaining was reasonable. But then again, I would never be so rude to my neighbors.

Presumably your local pub is doing the fireworks for the enjoyment of quite a few people. 6:30 - 7:30 sounds like an early and reasonable hour. I could think of much worse things they could do.

Having said all of that, it sounds like maybe you are tired and stressed (perfectly normal with a young baby) and blaming it/taking it out on the local pub etc.
ps. don't feel guilty about not feeling like having sex...having a baby and being a mother is hard work and there isn't much time or emotion or energy left at the end of the day for sex. It will come back.

My ds sleeps through fireworks and has never been bothered by loud noises. Your dd may well be the same. What is your dd's normal bedtime? If it's 7.30 it will be all over by then. If not, put her to bed at the back of the house and move her later. I hate fireworks too TBH - unless I am at a display where I can ooh and aaah, which I love. Distant bangs disturbing my sleep make he feel murderous but a short display well before bedtime wouldn't bother me at all personally. Last year we were in France in a tiny remote village without even a single shop and the whole village turned out for the fireworks, and ds slept through the whole thing at a very similar age to your dd. Don't assume the worst!

I meant this year, the were July 14 fireworks, and had to be late as it wasn't dark until after 10pm. I loved it. It felt like a real community thing.

Thanks all for your replies, I don't think I am being a spoilsport, it is just that it seems ridiculous to have the display on the roof 20 metres (I measured it) from my house! A neighbour is having a huge bonfire and a display - but it is in a field well away from everyone's houses and that is reasonable.

I thought better of having a chat - I don't want him to put two and two together either.

BTW, another neighbour saw me yesterday to say they thought it was a daft idea about the rooftop fireworks too.

It does sound close but I personally wouldn't risk falling out over it.